Sunday, June 26, 2016


When you're dealing with emotional pain and emotional trauma you have to make sure that you don't make poor choices that would make your situation even worse.

It's important not to attach yourself to things and people just to fill a void. Many times you may not even be aware that this is happening. Other times, you may be aware.

Healing takes time and is a very delicate process. Even though you may be experiencing some hurt it's very selfish to use other people to get over your pain especially if you're aware that's what you're doing. Until you actually deal with the pain it's not going anywhere. You may bury and ignore it but it's still there.

Be very aware of who you let close to you. Feelings and emotions change. So, it's critical that you don't make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions.

It may be hard to let people in as you try to protect yourself but the right people are able to help you heal emotionally. You have to be able to discern who has been sent to help heal you and who has been sent to harm you. When you're dealing with something that affects your emotional health, it's best not to have too many people around you. Keep people that you trust around you to keep an eye on you.

Take some time to be alone and figure out who you are in this new phase of your life. There is so much freedom in being able to enjoy doing things alone. Strive to be a whole individual who is constantly learning how to love yourself. Take some time to travel and experience life. Maybe you can't go out of the country, but perhaps you can go experience a new city.

Surround yourself with positive people that are doing positive things. Stay busy and live a purpose-filled life. Most of all do what's best for you and your emotional health. Many may not understand what you're dealing with and that's okay! This is your journey. God understands what you're going through, so just trust him to help you along the journey.

'Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning."

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Saturday, June 18, 2016


Fathers are super important. A father is a man that shows his sons how to lead and how to respect the women in his household by the life that he leads. A father is a man that shows his daughters how to be respected and treated by a man and tells them how to respect themselves.

A father is a leader and he is the first example to his children of what a man is. I'm thankful to have had my father in my life. He may have raised four girls but he taught us how to work hard. We probably can outwork some of these men out there.

My father is reliable and dependable. If he say he is going to do something you better believe it's going to get done. If he can't do it, he will make sure to let you know he can't.

My father was strict and he doesn't play any games. I take after him. I don't play no games. My dad encourages me to be a strong woman. He has taught me to speak up for myself and to ask questions. He tells me that you don't let people treat you any type of way. He is very encouraging and supports me as I build my business. He taught me to know who I am and where I come from. I'm proud to be a strong black Queen!

My father showed me what unconditional love was. My parents were divorced when my mother found out that she had colon cancer. The love that my father displayed toward my mother in her time of need is the type of love that I want if I ever succumb to illness. I was around my mother a lot during her illness and it is touching the type of relationship and the love that I saw between the two of them. Their love wasn't perfect but it was true.

I'm super blessed and probably a little spoiled. If I need my father to do something, he is right there as soon as he can. He doesn't give me an attitude. I had to check myself when I had an attitude when he asked me to do something for him because he doesn't respond like that to me. He will make sacrifices to make sure that I'm okay. My father believes in family and he did his best to build a strong foundation for my mother and his daughters.

My dad and I are super close and without him I don't even know how I would have made it when my mom got sick and passed away. He is a great listener and he gives good advice. I'm finally starting to listen to him more. :-) He tells me the truth whether I like it or not. Yet, he respects that I'm my own individual and he has learned that you have to let your children live their lives.

Most important, my father is a Man of God. Without his influence, I wouldn't have the spiritual knowledge that I have today. He believes in prayer and reading his word! His faith in God is very strong and I really admire this Man of God. Even if everyone else turned from God, my father would still be right there trusting in God.

Strong men raise strong sons and strong daughters who build strong families.

PSALM 127;3-5

Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.

As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.

Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.



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Sunday, June 5, 2016

Concrete Rose

June 5, 2015 was the worst day of my life. I was at work on a Friday when I got the news from my Dad. I will never forget that day. There was a lot of pain and hurt surrounding my mother's illness and her death.

Nevertheless, I have grown in the process of dealing with her illness and her death. I was so upset with certain individuals that I could not imagine a good relationship ever existing in the future. I still have one relationship that I'm praying about and that I need to work on. I still have pain and hurt but I'm trying to work through it.

What is life like without your Mother? I'm still adjusting. I don't ever remember thinking about life without my Mother especially at such a young age. There are things that I wish I could have done but I must use that to love the ones that are still here with me.

I do know that I'm now able to relate to those that have had to take care of a sick loved one and who have lost a loved one due to terminal illness. These experiences have made me more compassionate and have allowed me to know what the true meaning of love really is.

I'm so grateful for all of the things that my dear Mother taught me that has made me into the woman that I am today.  I will live a life full of purpose and I will make sure to share her story and our story until the day that I die.


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