Friday, January 15, 2016

Can You Relate?

Even individuals that appear to be strong deal with pain, anger, hurt, rejection, and disappointment. We either actually learn how to effectively deal with these things or we do a good job of masking the struggles that we go through.

I consider myself a strong individual but I'm realizing that I do some things out of stubbornness and out of the need to prove that I'm strong. Many times, I refuse to be weak and give in to what I don't want to give in to.

I'm learning that in order to live a well balanced life one must communicate what they are feeling and deal with issues as they come along. For me I'm able to discern things very strongly and very quickly. Many times I just withdraw myself or remove myself from the situation if I feel that the energy isn't right.

I believe in being genuine, honest, and real. So, if something is not okay with me I react accordingly.
Truth is though, by the time I actually deal with the situation I break down and respond emotionally because many times I have avoided confronting the issue. Reacting to a situation is not the same as dealing with a situation. I find that I react to situations, but I don't deal with them. When I was younger that might be understandable. Now, I'm thirty years old and I have to be more mature in how I deal with situations.

As I grow, I'm working on dealing with situations with better communication and trying to express my feelings early. I think I'm doing pretty good in dealing with the passing of my mother. However, I know that there are feelings about that ordeal that need to be expressed to certain people in my life. Not that I need to go and seek them out.  However, if the opportunity presented itself I definitely need to express how I feel about certain things.

When you don't deal with things, the problems just grow bigger.  It may appear that everything is okay on the outside, but on the inside you are a mess. I write these thoughts because we are all human and we share the same struggles. It's good to know that we are not alone in our experiences and that everything is not always what it looks like.

"Strive For Excellence"

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Friday, January 1, 2016


As I look within, I see growth. I know what I'm ready for in life and I know what I'm not ready for in life. I finally feel like I'm at a place that whatever comes my way, I'm ready to accept it. I have had some time to deal with things in my life that have affected me mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically. Now it's time to move forward.

I see so many people crying out for attention. We have been pressured to appear perfect in a world where everyone is dealing with some type of issue. Sadly, it seems like there aren't a lot of people available to help this generation. Sadly, those older than us seem to be dealing with some of the same issues. A vicious cycle that continues to repeat itself. The churches aren't really available to meet the needs of the people as many of the churches today have turned into a business. Society has become so cold and so selfish. The majority of us are only concerned about ourselves. We want people to care about us but we don't care about anyone but ourselves.

I myself am a business-minded young woman. I'm realizing that there are probably plenty of other individuals that want to go into business for themselves. However, they probably don't have any examples of others around them that are in business for themselves. It's much deeper than looking like we have it all together. So many of us are dealing with issues that have affected us physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally for a long time. While we aspire to do great things, we don't have the motivation and support to follow through with those goals.

When you can't grasp a hold of what's going on within it continues to affect many areas of your life. This abandoned generation is looking for love and acceptance in every way possible.  When there is no knowledge of self you spend your life searching for what will make you happy. People go from one relationship to another looking for that other person to make them happy. When that person doesn't make them happy, they leave and the search starts all over again. We acquire material things to make us feel like we are somebody. Yet, we still feel empty within. We are trying to heal ourselves with temporary pleasure.

We have to deal with the things that torment us within if we truly want to live a balanced life. Share your thoughts and feelings with those that you trust and that offer solutions. Many times you will have to remove yourself from toxic and negative situations. If you want something different out of life, you have to make a change. You may have to distance yourself from family, friends, and associates to figure out what's right for YOU. For when you are alone, you truly learn what makes you happy. You are not pressured to do things to make others happy. Alone time allows you to focus and not be distracted by everything else going on around you. In this time alone, seek God and ask him to direct your path. Ask him to send the right people into your life.

*You can fight your demons, or you can let them fight you.*

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