Sunday, October 25, 2015

Excess Baggage

One way to bring unnecessary baggage into a relationship is to hold onto relationships from the past. I don't understand how people can be in committed relationships, engaged, and even married but yet hold onto relationships from the past.

You might say, my partner trusts me but they have no control over emotional ties that were formed from previous relationships. So why even put yourself in the position to cheat either physically or emotionally with someone from the past?

If two individuals that use to deal with one another are now in committed relationships, I see no reason for them to interact unless they have children together. If you are still dealing with individuals from the past you might want to question your current relationship. If you truly love and are happy with the one that you're with why do you need to communicate or even hang out with those from the past?

Soul ties are real and so hard to break. Perhaps, I can interact with someone from my past and think that I'll be okay. However, no matter what you tell yourself you cannot control memories from the past and how that person made you feel. When you least expect it, those emotions can flood right back in.

Do everything that you can to protect the one that you love and that means doing whatever it takes to minimize the soul ties that you have from the people that you dealt with in the past.

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Friday, October 23, 2015

Don't Judge a Book By Its Cover

I think it's a waste of time to try and figure people out without taking the time to really get to know them. You will never truly know a person until you have genuine conversations and physical interactions with one another.

I think social media is the biggest tool of deception. People will think that you're doing good based on what you post. Yes, of course I'm doing good. I choose what I want to share with the entire world and your perception of me will be based on that. Remember that even though "Life Is Good" we all have to deal with the things that life throws at us. Yes, you might be able to get a general idea of an individual through what you see but it's never the full picture. We all at times mask what's really going on within. So don't get so caught up in what you see about a person, but take the time to get to know them. It's the person within that needs to be unmasked.

I personally prefer not to share private details of my life with the outside world unless I know that I can help encourage another individual with what I'm sharing. Even in that it's still the first layer of who I am. It's good to be real, honest, and open. However, you always have to be careful of what and who you reveal yourself to. Trust must be earned. Sit back, observe and listen to your intuition. I'm learning that even when you want to vent, you have to vent to the right people. You might end up leaving with more negative energy.

Don't judge people by what you see and don't reveal everything to everyone!!!

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Monday, October 5, 2015

Flow Together

The older that you get, the wiser that you should become. Now that I'm thirty, I feel like I'm behind somehow and that I need to catch up to where I should have been a long time ago. That's life though, we live and learn from our experiences.

It's very important to know what you want out of life. Especially, if you are considering spending your life with someone else. It's unfair to ask someone to give you something that they don't really want. If you are with someone knowing that they don't want the same things out of life you are indirectly trying to change them. Yes, there are some things that you compromise on in a relationship but if there is something that you really want and that isn't the other person's desire the relationship will suffer.

It's my personal belief that if you're meant to be joined with another there is only one person out there that will connect with you on every level spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. The love will be so strong that it will never die. When I was younger, I didn't really care too much about any of that. I was mostly doing my thing and having fun. However, there should come a point in time where you stop and say "What Am I Doing?"

If you're interested in someone some things must be discussed sooner than later so that you are not wasting each other's time. We are individuals and we cannot change one another. So, if someone tells you what they want out of life and what they believe in believe them. If they don't know yet, then keep it moving. Imagine two people not knowing what they want out of life and investing time in one another. Once they do figure it out, they may end up wanting entirely different things out of life. Rewind, actually I think it would be difficult to even discover what you really want in life and who you truly are if you are constantly worried about another person's feelings and emotions.

I just see so many people going from one relationship to another, "talking", and hooking up with people so casually. I'm sure some were like me not really caring, others don't want to be lonely and haven't learned to truly love themselves, and then others who thought they were going to change the other individual but that didn't work. Some things aren't meant to work out and you just have to let it go.  Maybe it's unrealistic but I think that when two people are individually free meaning that they have a general idea of what they want out of life and who they are, only then can they be free together.

Always be real and be true to yourself no matter what...

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