Wednesday, December 2, 2015

This Pain Cuts Deep

I don't hate you, but I don't like you either.
You did me wrong and you know it.
And if you want to know what you did
You will ask....

This pain goes deep
That's why it's so hard to release
But I'm suppose to be okay
And act like everything is cool....

But you can't hurt me anymore
Because I shut you out
Well not completely
I'll leave the door open a bit
But I still have my guard up
I don't trust you....

I know these feelings must be released
In time I guess
We have to right these wrongs
Until then....
Hopefully no one else has to suffer

Time does heal
Or does it?
Not if you don't address what's killing you.

*You won't be whole until you are able to balance your life spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically.* BE IN HEALTH!!!

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Monday, November 30, 2015

You're Putting Your Life On The Line

You wouldn't just give your social security to just anyone right? So, why are many of us becoming one with individuals that aren't "The One"? No judgment, just something to really think about. Each time that you lay down with someone, you are literally putting your life on the line. You don't know what physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual issues that they are dealing with. You are opening up yourself to anything that they may be dealing with. You're giving everything to people that you really don't know. Yes, we are all free to do what we want with our bodies. However, at some point other individuals will have to deal with the consequences of the choices that we make.

This generation does not ask questions. The questions come after the consequences manifest. Is this woman or man someone that you would want to conceive with? Having fun right now will not be fun when your children have to deal with a careless decision that you made. What happens when you are emotionally attached to someone who is emotionally unavailable? How do you move on? What happens when you're emotionally unavailable and someone is now emotionally attached to you and starts to act crazy.

No one is perfect, but at some point we all need to make better decisions regarding our lives. Why suffer from something that could have been prevented? There are so many questions that need to be asked if you're interested in someone. After many discussions and getting to know that person you might realize that this isn't the person for you after all. I'm sure many of us say to ourselves, "Why didn't that relationship work out? or how did I end up in this situation?" If you have a relationship with God did you seek God about that person? Did you take time to really get to know that person? Did you pay attention to the red flags that were presented before you? Or were you too focused on what you wanted? Two broken people cannot heal one another. Take time to heal and your soul will attract the one that is meant for you.

Also, tomorrow is World Aids Day!!! If you don't know your status, make sure that you get tested tomorrow.

Peace, Love, and Blessings To All!!!

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Tuesday, November 10, 2015


I'm in such a good space right now. Such an amazing feeling. I am truly blessed. I'm learning so much about LOVE. How to truly LOVE myself and what it means to truly LOVE others. I'm so thankful for the people that God has placed in my life to keep me encouraged. I'm also thankful for this process that I'm going through, separating the real from the fake. I'm elevating higher and only need those that want to elevate higher around me.


Sunday, October 25, 2015

Excess Baggage

One way to bring unnecessary baggage into a relationship is to hold onto relationships from the past. I don't understand how people can be in committed relationships, engaged, and even married but yet hold onto relationships from the past.

You might say, my partner trusts me but they have no control over emotional ties that were formed from previous relationships. So why even put yourself in the position to cheat either physically or emotionally with someone from the past?

If two individuals that use to deal with one another are now in committed relationships, I see no reason for them to interact unless they have children together. If you are still dealing with individuals from the past you might want to question your current relationship. If you truly love and are happy with the one that you're with why do you need to communicate or even hang out with those from the past?

Soul ties are real and so hard to break. Perhaps, I can interact with someone from my past and think that I'll be okay. However, no matter what you tell yourself you cannot control memories from the past and how that person made you feel. When you least expect it, those emotions can flood right back in.

Do everything that you can to protect the one that you love and that means doing whatever it takes to minimize the soul ties that you have from the people that you dealt with in the past.

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Friday, October 23, 2015

Don't Judge a Book By Its Cover

I think it's a waste of time to try and figure people out without taking the time to really get to know them. You will never truly know a person until you have genuine conversations and physical interactions with one another.

I think social media is the biggest tool of deception. People will think that you're doing good based on what you post. Yes, of course I'm doing good. I choose what I want to share with the entire world and your perception of me will be based on that. Remember that even though "Life Is Good" we all have to deal with the things that life throws at us. Yes, you might be able to get a general idea of an individual through what you see but it's never the full picture. We all at times mask what's really going on within. So don't get so caught up in what you see about a person, but take the time to get to know them. It's the person within that needs to be unmasked.

I personally prefer not to share private details of my life with the outside world unless I know that I can help encourage another individual with what I'm sharing. Even in that it's still the first layer of who I am. It's good to be real, honest, and open. However, you always have to be careful of what and who you reveal yourself to. Trust must be earned. Sit back, observe and listen to your intuition. I'm learning that even when you want to vent, you have to vent to the right people. You might end up leaving with more negative energy.

Don't judge people by what you see and don't reveal everything to everyone!!!

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Monday, October 5, 2015

Flow Together

The older that you get, the wiser that you should become. Now that I'm thirty, I feel like I'm behind somehow and that I need to catch up to where I should have been a long time ago. That's life though, we live and learn from our experiences.

It's very important to know what you want out of life. Especially, if you are considering spending your life with someone else. It's unfair to ask someone to give you something that they don't really want. If you are with someone knowing that they don't want the same things out of life you are indirectly trying to change them. Yes, there are some things that you compromise on in a relationship but if there is something that you really want and that isn't the other person's desire the relationship will suffer.

It's my personal belief that if you're meant to be joined with another there is only one person out there that will connect with you on every level spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. The love will be so strong that it will never die. When I was younger, I didn't really care too much about any of that. I was mostly doing my thing and having fun. However, there should come a point in time where you stop and say "What Am I Doing?"

If you're interested in someone some things must be discussed sooner than later so that you are not wasting each other's time. We are individuals and we cannot change one another. So, if someone tells you what they want out of life and what they believe in believe them. If they don't know yet, then keep it moving. Imagine two people not knowing what they want out of life and investing time in one another. Once they do figure it out, they may end up wanting entirely different things out of life. Rewind, actually I think it would be difficult to even discover what you really want in life and who you truly are if you are constantly worried about another person's feelings and emotions.

I just see so many people going from one relationship to another, "talking", and hooking up with people so casually. I'm sure some were like me not really caring, others don't want to be lonely and haven't learned to truly love themselves, and then others who thought they were going to change the other individual but that didn't work. Some things aren't meant to work out and you just have to let it go.  Maybe it's unrealistic but I think that when two people are individually free meaning that they have a general idea of what they want out of life and who they are, only then can they be free together.

Always be real and be true to yourself no matter what...

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Monday, September 14, 2015

Pressing Forward

My dream is becoming my reality. On September 4, 2015 I created my own fitness and health company Treasure Life Fitness and Health, LLC.  Today, I applied for my tax id number and business license and today is the official start date of my business. I am so thankful to God for allowing me to have supportive people in my life and for giving me the mind to want to be in business for myself.

It feels really good to be a business owner at the age of 30. I'm truly thankful to have good role models such as my dad and my uncles who are already in business for themselves. I hope to inspire other young adults to go after their dreams to open up their own businesses. I pray that I always keep God first, stay focused, and remain humble.

"Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth." 3 John 2

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Wednesday, September 2, 2015

Modern Day Slaves

I'm sure many of us can relate to student loan debt. We go to school to get a good job, just to turn around and spend years paying off those student loans if we weren't fortunate enough to have college paid for.

The job market isn't what it use to be and many times having a degree is worthless. I have two degrees in which I work in neither of those fields. I'm in a good position right now to save and pay but everyone is not fortunate enough to say the same. Especially, if you have kids, a family, mortgage, and other bills to pay. These student loans are keeping us as slaves to the system. By the time it's all said and done, I could have used that money that I'm paying right now to buy a house, some land, or invest into my own business. It's quite saddening. Nevertheless, when you know better you do better.

My advice to the younger generation is don't allow yourself to become engulfed in student loan debt. There are so many things that you can do and make good money without having a formal education. You just have to connect with the right people.

Success does not depend on how many degrees you have, how big your house is, what type of car that you drive, or what type of clothes that you wear. Rather, success is just being happy within and being able to achieve things that you feel are important to you. Yet, this society makes it so hard for people to just be themselves and live their life according to their own comfort. We have so much pressure on us to impress one another when all that we really need is to be happy and to be loved.

This is your life and you don't have to be a slave to the system. Can't wait until I'm

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Saturday, August 15, 2015


I would be lying if I said I knew it all and I know exactly what I'm doing with my life. One thing that I do know is that as I find my way, the answers are eventually revealed. Sometimes, the answer is very clear and other times it isn't. There is a message in everything that happens if you look closely enough.

This morning, I was working out with my client and a car came through the gym. The guy had a seizure and crashed through the area that I was standing at earlier while I was waiting on my client. That's no coincidence to me, that I would experience that this morning.  I don't have forever and since I'm still here there is a mission that must be accomplished. I have accepted that my view of life is very different from most people that I know.

A lot has changed since my mother became sick and passed away. People don't really understand the journey because it isn't their journey. It's so easy to tell someone what they should do when you haven't experienced what they have been through. So I know that every experience is strengthening me so that I can relate to others. Not only will I be able to tell you what you should do, but I can share what did and did not work for me. It's a painful emotional process but you have to be broken in order to become stronger.

Stay true to who you are. Don't live your life just to please others. You'll never be able to please everyone. Don't allow just anyone into your space. Know when to take a step back and when to take a step forward. The answer is there, keep seeking and you will find it.


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Sunday, August 9, 2015

A Time and A Season

They say you reap what you sow. I'm not one to brag but I really feel like the good that I put out is coming back to me. I feel greatness within me and it's exciting and a bit overwhelming.

Today was a great day. I wish my Mom was here so that I could share the things that are happening in my life with her. I know that she would be so happy and proud of me. I actually had to cry it was tears of sadness because I couldn't share my happiness with her. Yet, I'm still happy because I can just imagine her response in her words or her smile.

I went through a period of being broken so that I could become a stronger individual. I went through things that I would have never imagined. With the strength of God and my loved ones, I was able to push through all the difficulties and now the sun is starting to shine.

This is just the beginning and I'm so excited for the journey that is ahead of me. I just pray for guidance to connect to right people and that I never allow anyone or anything to destroy my inner peace.



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Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Time It Won't Wait, Tomorrow is Too Late

When you're young you don't fully understand life as it is. Things happen and you deal with it (or don't deal with it) the best way that you know how. Now that I'm 30 and that my mom is gone I'm finally understanding some things about life. Things you couldn't possibly understand until you have matured.

I realized that you can hold something against someone and not even know that you're holding it against them. It's just becomes part of who you are and it affects emotions and interactions with that person. Many times we don't mean to hurt others, we are just dealing with pain inside.

I'm now able to better understand who my mother was and it saddens me that God had to take her away for me to see it. Despite, all of our flaws and imperfections a bond of love cannot be broken between two individuals. That bond of love with my mother brought me home to be with her and I will always be grateful for that time with her.

She gave me a gift, she showed me how to be gentle, forgiving, and loving. What I got from her, I needed to go into my thirties with a new perspective. There has to be balance in everything. Walls can't stay up forever. Forgiveness is something that you always have to work at, even when you think you have forgiven a person.

More importantly, this whole experience has taught me that you must seek to live a balanced life. Everything is connected. You must be spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically healthy in order to live a prosperous life.

I have forgiven myself for things that I didn't do or say, things that I didn't know to do or say. One thing that I do know is that she wanted the best for me, that she believed in me, and that she loved me. God didn't take her unexpectedly. He knew that there were some things to be worked on, lessons to be learned and he gifted our family that time to express things that had built up over the years.

Whatever you plan to do, do it now. You might feel like you have all the time in the world, but you don't. I could have never imagined my mother being gone from this side before I turned thirty. Your life can change forever. Mine changed drastically and very fast.

Talk more to the ones that you care about, ask the questions, explore their mind, and love them unconditionally. For none of us are promised tomorrow, and each day that we get is a blessing. So it's up to us now to decide what we will do with the lessons that were learned.


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Tuesday, July 14, 2015

What's The Point of Getting Married Anyways?

Do we do things because people tell us that's what we should do or because we truly believe in it ourselves? In today's society the value of being married has diminished yet people are still getting married.

Let's say I meet a guy, we get to know one another for a couple of years and decide to move in with one another. Shortly thereafter, we have a child and life goes on. After all that, at what point is marriage even necessary? 

I know different religions talk about marriage but they also talk about a lot of things that people do not live by. So, why is marriage so important to you? How do you determine if it's the right thing to do? What's your reason for deciding to get married?

Are we getting married because we have been told that is the "right thing" to do, or do we truly believe in the institution of marriage? If you do whatever you want before you get married, why does marriage all of a sudden bring things together? In my opinion, it doesn't.

I'm really stuck here on why society insists on getting married but yet many of us live as if we are already married before we get married? What changes after we get married then? I mean you have a piece of paper, but other than that has anything really changed?

I myself, am not perfect. I have made mistakes and bad decisions in my life. However, now I am a spiritual person and I believe that there are certain things that you live by if you are striving to live right. For me marriage is something serious and I don't want to continue damaging my soul before I meet the one that God has for me.

Maybe you're not spiritual or religious and feel that you don't need to abstain from certain behaviors, yet marriage still is important to you. I really want feedback on this one. I'm not trying to condemn anyone and in no way am I saying that you need to be perfect. I'm just trying to understand the mind of our society.

"A mistake more than once is a decision."

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Sunday, July 12, 2015

We Became One

Sexual soul ties are real and should be talked about more often. Every time that you become one with another individual you come in connection with their demons and spirits. Not only that you are also exposed to the demons and spirits of any other individuals that they have been intimate with.

There is no such thing as "casual sex". Every thing that you do to your temple affects the condition of your soul. Many times we interact with individuals and become intimate with them and start to take on their desires. We may even do things that we never dreamed of doing because we have allowed demons and spirits from others to come inside of us.

Soul ties are difficult to break and it takes discipline to keep your temple clean. You may not feel that you have a soul tie with every individual that you have been intimate with but you do.
Not only do you protect yourself from negative energy and evil spirits when you abstain from sex, you also add value to yourself. Each time that you lay down with a man outside of marriage your value is take away.

It took a while for me to realize what I was doing to my body and my soul when I engaged in premarital sex. Even though I was taught that it was wrong, I did not fully understand what it does to one's soul. In most cases I wasn't one who was emotionally attached so it was harder for me see what damage I was doing deep down within.

I could really go on and on about this but I'll save that for later. I just want to grasp someone's attention and get you to think about what you are doing to your soul and your temple when you engage in activities that were meant to be shared with "The One."

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Friday, July 3, 2015

Finding Normalcy

My dear mother passed away four weeks ago. Right now I'm trying to find normalcy and just live a balanced life. Losing her has affected me physically and emotionally. I lost weight since she has passed and I'm still struggling to gain that weight back.

I still eat healthy but I have fallen off and went back to eating things that I wasn't eating normally and hadn't eaten in a while.  When you take something away from your body, your body gets use to it. However, when you give your body that same thing more than once your body starts to crave for it again. I'm determined to get it together and stop eating that stuff.

On the other hand, I have been working out the last three weeks and have worked out three times this week already. I typically work out about four times a week. Also, I have two new clients starting this month so that is very exciting and will keep me busy.

Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you . 1 Peter 5;7


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Monday, June 22, 2015

She's Gone

No more kisses, no more hugs
No more “Bye Mom, have a good day,”
No more “I love you.”

My heart longs for her.
I cry tears of sadness.

It feels as if she was taken too soon.
And there's no one who can take her place.

She loved me and believed in me
So I must continue what we started

She had such strength and endured so much.
I'm grateful for the time that God gave us.

The time that was needed, was given.
I'm at peace with that.

Being by her side helped me to grow
It opened my eyes to what's real.

So many memories even in her sickness
That I will cherish forever.

The woman that gave me life is gone
Yet, my life I must live.

One day at a time
Continuing the legacy that she left behind.

She fought her fight
Now I must finish mine.

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Thursday, May 28, 2015

Sweet Victory

As I enter into my thirties, I can say that my last year of being a twenty-something has been the roughest year of my life. Yet, I have learned so many things and grown in this last year. It is true, you don't know how strong you are until you are pushed to the limit and actually have to endure some tough times.

I feel that I am in a good place spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. I'm also striving to do better and seeking to learn new things. Through the situations that I have been through I'm learning that you should never judge an individual off of their actions or appearance without seeking to find out what's going on within their soul.

So even though I feel like 30 is old, I'm excited to be entering into a new phase of my life. God is preparing me so that I will be able to inspire, motivate, and encourage other individuals. I know that in order for change to take place in one's life, that individual must first renew their mind. Health to me is not just about looking good. Rather it is about prospering spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. In order to teach others how to prosper I must first lead by example. I pray that God keeps me focused and allows me to continue to move forward.

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Monday, May 11, 2015

The Aftermath

We always think it will never happen to us until it happens to us. Certain life events can change us forever and even some things will turn your life upside down. I can think of four things that have significantly impacted my life that I would have never thought would have happened to me. None of us are invincible and we have to deal with life as it comes at us.

Certain things that I have experienced in life allow me to relate to others that have experienced or are experiencing the same thing. The thing is if we didn't spend so much time trying to hide our imperfections from one another we would find that we have so much in common with one another. However, I understand that it is easier said than done. Many times it hurts to talk about the things that have affected our souls and our spirits. Sometimes, you will feel alone. Like no one understands what you are going through.

Even though I struggle with talking about some of my experiences, I believe that there is freedom in sharing your experiences with others.  I know that as I achieve balance in my life, I will some day be able to share freely with others.

As I look back over my life, there are some things that I would have done differently. Nevertheless, I use those experiences to make smarter decisions as I move forward with my life. Every decision has a consequence.

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Monday, April 27, 2015


Tonight, I had to cry. I'm not really an emotional person, but I still have emotions. I had to let those emotions come out. It doesn't benefit me to let the frustration and anger build up inside of me.

Always remember that you never know what battles people are fighting inside. It takes a lot to remain strong.

But sometimes you to have cry. After all, you are only human. But after I cry, I will smile because I refuse to let anyone or anything take away my peace.

I feel weak when I cry, but I know that I'm strong. Only a strong person can admit to when they are hurting.

It's easy to hurt people, curse people, disrespect others, hit people, and be angry with others.  It takes a stronger person to reveal how they feel, keep silent when needed, maintain their calm, and give love and encouragement to others.

So let the tears fall, there will be a brighter day. Release the pain that has been built up inside. Don't let it get the best of you.

"Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry for anger resteth in the bosom of fools." Ecclesiastes 7;9

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Saturday, April 25, 2015


Having great leadership and a great foundation is one of the most wonderful feelings in the world. It doesn't mean that you don't make mistakes, but rather you are able to get back on track when you get off course.

As I approach 30, I'm so grateful for the foundation that my parents laid for me. I'm especially proud of my father for raising four girls and never giving up on us. It's tough raising girls. He is a true example of strength to me. Although my parents are divorced, my father's love for his family is unconditional.

Due to unforeseen circumstances, I have had a chance to spend more time with my family and experience what true love really looks like. Lessons that must be learned so that I can be the leader that God has called me to be.

The last seven months have been very difficult for our family, but through it all God has kept us. I'm learning that God will do whatever it takes to accomplish a goal. He is teaching me how to be more caring, loving, understanding, and patient. Through it all, he is giving me peace and the strength to go on.

As I sit here and reflect, I know that I would not have made it through the things that I have experienced without the grace of God. You truly don't know how strong you are until you go through some tests.

When I get discouraged and overwhelmed, God makes sure to send me some encouragement. If you trust in God, he will see you through. The thing is we can't just go to God when we need him, but we must have a committed relationship with him. He wants that real love, through good and bad.

I'm feeling good about going into my thirties. I know that God has so much more in store for me. I will always trust in him, no matter what the situation looks like.

Always learning, always seeking, always growing.


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Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Do You Like It?

Perhaps, we should stopping asking people do they like certain things about us.  I know women especially are good for seeking the approval of other women. Truth is, if you like a certain hairstyle, or a certain outfit, or a certain shoe why should anyone's opinion change your true feelings? It shouldn't. As long as you are being respectful to others, do what makes you happy.

Even though, I know that I'm healthy and I know that I feel good I sometimes want to be assured that I don't look too small. However, it doesn't matter to me anymore because I am happy with who I am. I determined not to let anyone's opinion affect the way that I feel about myself.

When someone says I like it, you get happy. When someone says I don't like it, you get offended, or upset, and then try to figure out how to make them happy. Don't be so easily controlled by the opinions of others.

Social media is just another tool that many of us use to boost our self-esteem. Many times we post what we think people will like. What if we post how we really feel and not this picture perfect life that we want others to believe that we have? You want to know how I know that your life isn't picture perfect, because my life isn't.

But yet we try to convince one another that we're living the life. Many times you're just showing off or crying for some attention.

My main purpose for using social media is not to be liked. I'm here to learn, inspire, inform, and connect with like-minded individuals. You can never be free by trying to live up to the standards of what other people like or what others expect from you. Society tell us to get an education, get a good job, get a nice house, drive a nice car, get married, and have children. What do you have to say about all that? Is society controlling how you live your life?

I personally like to be different. It started from birth. My parents raised me to be different. "And be not conformed to this world; but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God." I did stray away and tried to conform to the world but now I'm coming back, but in my own way. Your journey will not be the same as someone else's journey. You can't follow others because they say this is what you should do. You have to be persuaded in your own mind.  God is bringing me closer to him by bringing me back to nature. Nature, natural, God's creation, how he intended things to be.

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Friday, March 20, 2015



I'm providing a free training session to the first three people that can guess how many nicknames I have. If you can guess one of them other than (NayNay) I'll also assist you with grocery shopping, provide a meal plan, or assist with food prep. (You can choose one of those). I'm in the Hampton Roads area and I can meet you in either Va Beach or Norfolk. So email me at if interested.

Sunday, March 15, 2015

Ask For What's Yours

As a woman, you're not just supposed to sit in the corner and look pretty. Although, you may be the weaker sex you have the power to accomplish just as many things as a man. Remember, you will never be a man but you still have the ability to the get the job done. Which means you have to learn how to allocate your resources.

Never depend on a man without having anything for yourself. Why, because if he leaves you will have nothing for yourself. Have a vision of your own. Know how to take care of and how to support yourself. How can you support your future spouse if you don't know how to do anything for yourself? Perhaps, you may never marry. Will you just forever wait and feel sorry for yourself.

For the most part, I have always gone after what I wanted. If you don't ask, you won't get it. At this point in my life, I would rather learn from the mistakes of others. Therefore, I obtain knowledge from those that have already did or are doing what I aspire to do. I'm very observant and I apply what I learn to my life.

It is very important for young girls and young women to have strong male figures in their lives. I have been blessed to have a wonderful father and wonderful uncles that have supported me and encouraged me along the way. I'm making a point to concentrate on the strong men in my life as they encourage me to be the best woman that I can be. Only a man can truly tell a woman how other men are so that they aren't taken advantage of.

Also, strong male role models show a young girl or a young woman what she should expect from any man that she decides to entertain in her life. The men in my life have showed me that anything worth having requires hard work. More importantly, they have taught me the importance of family and what it means to be there for one another. They didn't just say this and that but they actually followed through with actions. A true leader doesn't just tell a person what they should be doing, but also shows them.

This message is for all the men out there. Be there for your daughters, nieces, sisters, and cousins. They are looking for a role model. They need you!!!! Teach them the ropes, instill them with knowledge.

To the young girls and young ladies out there, Know Your Worth. Don't let the fact that you're a woman stop you from being great. Build your empire with or without a man.

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Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Living Proactively

A year ago (March 8th, 2014), I started my vegan journey after watching a film called "Forks Over Knives." The film impacted me greatly. Mainly because I had already lost three relatives to cancer. The film talked about a plant based diet and how it helped improve serious health conditions.

I knew from there that I had to make a change. However, I was already leading a healthy lifestyle so it wasn't terribly difficult for me to make the transition. It was really exciting because this was something major. I didn't even know a vegan or a vegetarian at the time. I just jumped out there.

I choose to become a vegan for better health. "Veganism is the practice of abstaining from the use of animal products, particularly in diet, as well as following an associated philosophy that rejects the commodity status of sentient animals." That's the official definition of veganism. However, during the past year I did take vitamin d supplements that contained gelatin and I do use honey.  Recently, I stopped taking the supplements. So technically, I'm a vegan that uses/consumes honey. Other than that, I do not knowingly consume animal products in my diet.

I have learned so much about nutrition and health during this time. When you eat right and eat healthy, there's really no need to count calories.  You can eat freely. If you're interested in what I eat as a vegan, check out one of my previous post So What Do You Eat?

The greatest feeling is being able to help others lead healthier lives because of my decision to better my life. I have been through a lot lately and I truly believe that my lifestyle has aided in keeping me strong and giving me the energy to get whatever I need to get accomplished.

I don't try to persuade others to become vegan. I just want others to focus on leading healthier lives. Live proactively. There are so many health conditions that are caused by what we eat and can be prevented if we are just willing to change our lifestyles. The choice is yours and I'm here to help you along the journey.

If you have any questions for me, feel free to ask below. Love and blessings to you all!!!!

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Thursday, February 26, 2015

How Are You?

Mental and emotional health play a huge role in your overall health. They are very important as they affect how you are able to function daily. You can appear to be physically healthy on the outside but dealing with so much within.

Everyone deals with stress in different ways. Personally, the gym is my place where I can escape and be in a world of my own for the most part. Even though I don't generally talk a lot about things that I go through there are times when I just need to vent. Communication is very important in dealing with mental and emotional stress. We all need someone to talk to. We need that personal connection, someone who gets what we are going through. God has placed some people in my life to be there for me when I need to express how I'm feeling. Without them, life would be so much harder right now.

Doing too much and holding in feelings can cause one to burst. It can cause one to say and do things that they really don't mean to do. Never let things build up to where you have had too much. Even though I try to manage my stress and my feelings I don't always do the best job. Depending on the situation sometimes I just shut down and don't want deal with the situation. However, in order for the situation to get better you have to deal with it.

One thing that I'm learning is that there are people that will understand what you are going through and then there are others that may never be able to comprehend what you're going through. When people say "How Are You," they may not really be ready or equipped to hear what you are really dealing with. You can't share everything with everyone, because many times people don't really care.

I had a friend of mine reach out to me to check on me and the family and to also get some nutritional advice. At the end of the conversation that friend was able to pray for me and that really means a lot to me. A good way to manage stress and emotions is to maintain relationships with people that you can give something to, but they can also give something to you in return.  In this case I was able to provide nutritional advice and in return I was able to be encouraged. Never allow someone (even family and close friends) to continually drain you. Rather keep people in your life that motivate and strengthen you.

I focus a lot on fitness and health because those are my stronger areas. However, I'm gradually learning how to communicate more and express how I feel in order to build better relationships with the ones that I love and others that I may come in contact with.

Progress not perfection. Work in progress. A wise person deals with all aspects of being a healthy individual.

Knowledge is great. However, wisdom is being able to understand how to use what you know. I'm on my way.

Proverbs 3;17

Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace.

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Thursday, February 19, 2015


The other day I had someone ask me my opinion of waist trainers. I personally wouldn't wear one. For one, I know that I would not be comfortable in one. I enjoy breathing comfortably and moving without restriction. More importantly, you lose weight and inches through a healthy diet and exercise. There are no shortcuts to losing and maintaining a healthy weight.

I tried the It Works Wraps before and in my opinion it was a waste of money. I probably didn't really need it in the first place. You might see some temporary results from these weight loss trends out here but it won't keep the weight off forever. I work my butt off to be where I'm at today. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle requires hard work, dedication, and consistency. You have to work hard for whatever you want.

There are many exercises that you can do for your core, abs, and obliques. I'll take exercise and eating right any day over wearing a waist trainer. I also know that there are no magic pills, waist trainers, wraps that will get keep off belly fat. If leading a healthy lifestyle was easy everybody would do it.


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Thursday, February 12, 2015

Health Is My Wealth

It is my belief that many women aspire to be skinny, while many men aspire to be fit. However, being skinny or fit does not necessarily mean that you're healthy. Nutrition is included in health. If you're working out all the time but not eating right then you're not healthy. If you stay in the gym but you smoke or drink you are still putting toxins into your fit body. You might be able to fool others from your outward appearance but inside will tell a different story.

Eating right and being skinny is not bad. However, eating right and being fit makes you a stronger individual. I believe that I am the strongest that I have ever been in my life due to eating right and working out regularly. Being physically in good health effects all aspects of my life. It allows me to think clearer and to operate better. Health is how you look, how you feel, how you think, and how you perform.

Don't get so caught up on that outward appearance that you forget about what you are feeding your mind, soul, and body. If I'm healthy first spiritually, mentally and physically I will prosper in ALL things.  HEALTH IS WEALTH!!!!

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Thursday, February 5, 2015


Since I have switched to a vegan lifestyle one of the questions that I am asked is, "So What Do You Eat?" I mean I probably would ask the same question if the roles were reversed. Truth is, when you are limited to eating the foods that you are use to eating you discover that there are so many other healthy good foods out here.

So, I'll start with breakfast. Particularly, throughout the work week I have oatmeal with cinnamon and raisins. More recently, I try to have at least a cup of almond milk in the morning as a source of Vitamin D and Vitamin B12.

I use to try to eat something every two hours during the work hours but honestly sometimes it's shorter than two hours but definitely longer than two hours after I leave work.

Nevertheless, I have plenty of snacks between breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I typically have a banana, orange, and cashews about five days a week. I also love brown rice cakes with almond butter. Some other snacks that I may eat include pumpkins seeds, cucumber slices, and almonds.

For lunch, I try to cook mostly but occasionally I do buy out. I just set a new goal to only buy lunch and dinner out once a week.

Dinner usually consists of spinach, asparagus, avocado, sweet potato, squash, or zucchini.

Here lately I have been drinking green tea a lot and I have even graduated to drinking it without honey or any type of sweetner. I only drink water, almond milk, green tea, ginger tea (haven't in a while), and I drink juice that I make with my omega juicer.

Well there you have it, some of the things that I eat and I try to add variety every now and then. There is always something new to learn and try.

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Monday, January 26, 2015


This past Saturday, I had the opportunity to view the documentary "Soul Food Junkies" with a group of individuals. If you care about yourself and the ones that you love I suggest that you watch this film with them. It was very accurate in my opinion of describing most black people (at least the ones that I know) and their relationship to soul food.

I could personally relate as I used to have a love affair with fried chicken and mac and cheese.  A lot of times we hear and may even know that particular things are bad for us. However, many times illness has to overtake us before we begin to make healthier changes in our lives.

Before I started eating healthier, I would just eat for comfort and because the food made me feel good. I would eat large portions of food even if I knew that I didn't need to consume that much food.

I must say that I have come a very long way since then. I have been a slim individual for most of my life. So, I never really worried about what I ate.  Health and nutrition were nowhere on my mind as long as I was at a comfortable weight. I started to notice that I was putting on some weight during my senior year of college at Virginia State University.

After college, I decided to go to grad school at Howard University in August of 2007. Starting out as a full-time grad student at Howard University and working two part-time jobs for the majority of my time in grad school I was not working out or eating healthy.

On January 9, 2009 I started my first weight loss journey as best as I knew how. I still have my food journal from 2009 where I would write down what I would eat. During that year, I focused on counting calories and I also incorporated exercise into my weight loss plan. In December 2009, my weight was 150lbs.

From December 2009 through about December 2010/January 2011, I ended up gaining approximately 30lbs. You're probably wondering what happened right? Well that goes back to nutrition and exercise. I wasn't making healthy decisions regarding what to eat and I wasn't exercising. I was also stressed because I had accepted a new position at my job in June 2010.

In January 2011, I started my second weight loss journey and I have consistently maintained a healthy weight for the last 3 1/2 years. Additionally, after watching the documentary "Forks Over Knives", I decided to adopt a vegan lifestyle on March 8, 2014 and that has opened my eyes so much. In addition to losing about 12-13lbs since that time, I have discovered new foods and have had health issues improve.  I no longer focus on counting calories but rather I am more concerned about the chemicals, hormones, antibiotics, preservatives, additives, and pesticides that are contained in our foods today.

It took an extreme measure to get me to where I am today. I have learned a lot in my journey and plan to continue to learn more and more each day. My hope is that I am able to inspire someone with my story and that I continue to help others reach their fitness and health goals.

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