Thursday, February 20, 2014

Classy Women Never Negotiate!!!

Classy women don't negotiate their value. When you know your worth you don't settle for less. Yes, no one wants to be alone. But are you willing to be with someone at any cost? It has always been a rule of mine to never chase a man. One, because I was taught that it is the man's responsibility to seek after that which he desires. Two, just not in my nature to chase after a guy. Three, I'm too busy chasing my dreams, no time for chasing men.

A man knows what he wants, and he will go after what he wants. If you have to go after him, either he doesn't want you or he is not man enough to go after you. It is as simple as that. I personally don't want someone who doesn't want me and I definitely do not want a passive man.

Women that pursue men give out their number without being asked, ask men out on dates, and the worst thing that a woman can do is ask a man to marry them. Now there is a difference in telling a guy that you are looking for a serious relationship that is going to lead to marriage. Or let's say that you have been in a relationship for a while and you mention to him that you are ready to get married. I'm okay with that, but if you have to give a ultimatum like marry me or I'm leaving then I'm a bit worried.

 Let's say that you do spark up a conversation with a guy, it is up to him to take the hint. If he doesn't take it, there is nothing else that you need to do. Women with class do not chase after men and they do not flaunt themselves as if they are for sale. Some women get mad if a man approaches them a certain way based on how they are dressed. If I'm advertising myself but then I decide I'm not available why am I mad at the guy. Most men are initially attracted to what they can see with their eyes. So if you expect a man to respect you, you first have to respect yourself in the way that you dress, talk and behave.

You know what you want, you know what you are bringing to the table. Therefore, there is no room for negotiation.



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Sunday, February 9, 2014

ASSIMILATION, INTEGRATION, EDUCATION

“American Promise” is a documentary that tells the story of two African American males and their experience with education in America. It deals with issues of race, class, gender, and education. It shows how the males have to adapt to being different from their peers at Dalton and their peers when they are not at school. They have to assimilate and integrate in order to receive an education that is deemed acceptable in American society.

 Babby Krents, the admissions director at Dalton made a comment that really didn’t sit well with me. She said, “I won’t accept a child if I don’t think he or she can handle the work, but diversity is a big commitment of ours.” It just seemed as if she was saying that the majority of children of color cannot handle the work level. It really wasn’t what she said, but the fact that many children of color cannot handle the work at Dalton. While it might appear that race is what distinguishes us from one another, it really is a class issue. A lot of black children cannot even afford to go to that school or they would be there. Many children cannot handle the work load because they do not have the resources and do not have the support to keep up. Often times those without the resources, are the children of color. Every child in America should be able to receive the same level of education and it shouldn’t depend on class or race.

For example, let’s say that I as an African American female had the same resources as one of my white peers from the day that I was born, I know that life would have been a lot different for me. That isn't to say that it would have made me a better person. I also believe that the impact of race and class depends a lot on location. As a resident of Arlington, Virgina I am able to see the impact of race and class. There is a lot of diversity here but class still separates the races. Education is important and diversity is important. Yet, you shouldn’t have to lose your identity to obtain a proper education. The boys dealt with emotional issues because they felt so different from their peers. Idris says, “I bet if I was white, I’d be better off.” No child should ever feel that he is not good enough, especially when it comes to race.

I commend the parents for sending their children to Dalton. They didn’t do anything wrong, they did what they felt what was best for their children. Every child should be encouraged to work hard no matter their race, their class, or where they live. My parents supported and encouraged me to be a good student. As the product of the public school system their commitment and devotion made me the woman that I am today. 

Another message that was conveyed throughout the documentary was that you cannot judge a book by its cover. Many of the children at Dalton dealt with the same issues as Idris and Seun. Also, without knowing Seun many may have called him a thug because of the locks and the way that he dressed. Honestly, I would have never guessed that he went to Dalton by his appearance. As a society, we judge a person by their appearance before we take time to get to know who they are as a person.

I really enjoyed the documentary. These are issues that our black males are dealing with in America today. Unfortunately, many times we are not aware of what is going on with others around us until it is brought to our attention.

 Check out American Promise at http://www.pbs.org/pov/americanpromise/full.php#.UvRe3kJdXNA.

What did you think about the documentary? Would love to hear your thoughts.


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Wednesday, February 5, 2014

THE POWER OF SOCIAL MEDIA

Social media is one the best networking tools available to us today. If you are not using social media to network you are really missing out. I'm sure my readers have noticed that I haven't written in awhile. Well, I have been pursuing my goals as a film director, producer, and writer. In a relatively short time I have networked with several different individuals. Connections have taken place via social media, email, and word of mouth. A simple Instagram post, business card, and email has connected me with several different individuals. What I'm learning is that you have to market yourself before you can expect someone else to market you.Take advantage of the tools that are already available to you. There are no excuses with all the technology that is now made available to us today.

With that being said, please help support me through social media as I express my passion for producing and writing documentary films. I already have several ideas and have begin writing for a web series that I'm working on with another individual. Tonight my roommate said, "I can tell that you're passionate about this, I can see it in your eyes." She is right. My first love is writing and now I want to put my writing on the film screen. Most importantly, I know that I can't do anything without putting God first. I will always keep him first in my life no matter how high he takes me.

You can connect with Naomi B through the following:


Instagram: NAOMIBFILMS
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NaomiBFilms
Twitter: https://twitter.com/NaomiBFilms
Email: naomibfilms@gmail.com
Website and Youtube page coming soon!!!!

I would love to hear your thoughts...just to know that I'm not talking to myself :-)


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