Sunday, January 12, 2014


True friends randomly stop by your house on a Friday night to visit with you. Not all friends do that, but I'm blessed to have such wonderful friends that do. As I get older, I realize that we don't really have friends but rather associates. There only a few people in life that truly care about you. I never had a lot of friends anyways, but there are individuals that I really thought were my friends and turned out they were not. I think that's why it really hurts when people cut you off because I don't just let anyone into my life. Many times I try to figure out what I did wrong, but many times I didn't do anything wrong.

What is a friend? A friend is someone who is there for you in the good times and the bad times. A friend keeps it real with you and tells you when you are wrong. If you are doing all the giving in the relationship, then you do not have a friend. I try to be a very friendly person and I pretty much get along with anyone. However, I can no longer can afford to invest in relationships that really have no meaning.  Surround yourself with people that will invest in you just as much as you invest in them. Take a look at the individuals that you call friends and really analyze the relationship. You choose who gets to be a part of your life.  Choose your friends wisely.

Proverbs 17;17

A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

Proverbs 18;24

A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly; and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

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Sunday, January 5, 2014

Grown Men Don't Cry

What does it mean to be a man? I believe that most men are afraid to express their feelings for fear of being called emotional or weak. The fact that I only witnessed a few men cry in my lifetime confirms that for me. I couldn't imagine wanting to express my feelings but having to contain them to maintain a certain image. Actually, I am sometimes guilty of keeping my emotions locked away. However, as a woman I am expected to cry or express my emotions.

Sometimes, you will hear the phrase "even grown men were crying" pretty much implying that men don't cry. Crying is an expression of what we are feeling at the time. You should be allowed to release your emotions no matter your sex. I honestly believe that if you are not allowed to express your feelings that you will go crazy. When I see a man cry, it makes me cry or want to cry.

Men have some of the same emotions as women but have been taught to withhold these emotions. This is unhealthy and unfair. A man that doesn't open up is unhealthy especially in a relationship. Expressing your feelings and thoughts does not make you less of a man. As a female that has had men express their feelings and emotions to her, I know that there is a need for men to be able to openly express their feelings without being judged.

If a man does decide to express his emotions and feelings it will be with a woman that he trusts. However, I believe that men should also be able to share these same emotions with other male friends. A lot of men try to be a man based on what they have been taught that makes them a man. I have learned that real men are secure enough to express their feelings and emotions and to know that it doesn't make them less of a man.

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Wednesday, January 1, 2014


There are misconceptions about all types of women. However, I think independent women are misunderstood the most. One of the biggest misconceptions of independent women is that they don't want a man to tell them what to do or that they are not submissive. That is so far from the truth. A confident woman doesn't want a man that she can boss around and tell him what to do. However, she will also make it clear that she will not put up with just anything.

Another misconception about independent women is that they do not need a man. There are women that will say that they don't need a man. In fact, independent women do need companionship. Just because you can do something by yourself, doesn't necessarily mean that you should do it by yourself. We were designed to be a help to men. However, they will not let a relationship status define who they are as a person.

Independent women are only focused on their careers. While this is true for some independent women, there are independent women that long to have a family. For example, my sister and I are both very independent women with very different goals for our lives. It is the goals that you establish for yourself and how you take care of yourself that makes you an independent woman.

Independent women are harder to approach. Well, if you have nothing to offer that woman, then yeah you might feel that way. If a woman is not confident in who she is, how can she possibly provide support to her spouse?

Independent women are less feminine. Independence should not take away from the loving, supportive, and fostering qualities of a woman.

Every woman should know how to take care of herself. My parents taught my sisters and I how to take care of ourselves. So, not only do we know how to take care of ourselves but we also know to take care of a man. Truth is, a man is not always guaranteed to be in your life. Those should not be qualities that only independent women possess. My parents didn't necessarily teach me to be an independent woman, but the qualities that they instilled in me as a young girl allows me to be an independent young lady.

Are you an independent woman?

Do you feel misunderstood?

Were you taught to be independent?

Are you a man/woman that is intimidated by other independent women?

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Thank God for a New Year. I'm glad that I'm continually growing into the person that God wants me to be. I pray that I'm able to encourage someone even if it is only one person through the life that I live.