Thursday, December 25, 2014

Let's Talk About Christmas

Last year around this time my roommate wanted to get a Christmas tree for the apartment. I don't particularly celebrate Christmas but I went along with her to get the tree. Now that I look back on it I wish I would have told her exactly how I felt about the Christmas holiday.  I may have discussed it with her briefly ( I honestly can't remember) but I still went along with her to get the tree.  I'm at a point in my life where I have no desire to fit in and do things just because everybody else is doing them.

The Christmas season is a time where people claim to show that they love others by giving gifts and doing good deeds. It is also a time when people go further into debt just to prove that they love someone.

During the holiday season, the media emphasizes doing good deeds and giving to others. What about other times in the year? There are still individuals that are in need of food, clothes, and shelter. Yet, we let society tell us when we should give to others and do good unto one another.

I haven't seen or heard much about Christ this season. Rather, Christmas and most holidays if not all are driven off of capitalism and consumerism. Christmas impacts economic activity.

How would you feel if people were celebrating your birthday on the day that you weren't born? Not only that, when they decide to celebrate they give the gifts to other people. The same people claiming to be celebrating your birth but every other day of year they act like they don't know you.

As a believer, I don't have time to prove to others on one particular day of the year that I love you. I would much rather you know that I love you throughout the year. Furthermore, I'm not going into debt to prove that I love you by giving you materialistic things.

I try my best not to display my feelings about how I feel about Christmas out of respect for others. After all, I do in fact believe in Jesus and his birth. However, it's just hard for me to accept how observing the birth of Jesus has really turned into a day where many people glorify the things that they have received from other.

I pray that during this season as with any other day of the year that someone gives their life to Christ. That's the best gift that you can give to him!!!!

God Bless!!!! Wishing Everyone A Prosperous New Year!!!

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Tuesday, November 25, 2014


I'm so tired of people complaining about the conditions in our society but then not doing anything to change the circumstances.

I mean who really expected Darren Wilson to be indicted? The problem is that many of us are temporarily focusing on these stories that the media feeds to us and then we go back to our lives. We continually allow mainstream media to upset us as history repeats itself over and over again.

Trust me, the injustices against black people do upset me. However, I'm now at a point of frustration that black people are expecting justice from a system that is not going to give them justice. I will not waste my energy being mad at something that I can't change. However, I will do all that I know to do to make a difference the best way that I can.

If you were truly concerned with the injustices that African Americans deal with on a daily basis you would seek to do something different. There are different reasons that African Americans aren't unified and not concerned about what's going on, but it's time to change that.

How about we start supporting our families? Once we do that we can go out into the community and start supporting black owned businesses. I strongly believe that there should be unity within the home first before you can go out and build up your community. You can't expect somebody to do something for you that you aren't even willing to do for yourself and your own family. If we all take care of our families it puts us in a better position to take care of one another.

I had parents that taught me black history and therefore I am proud to be Black. My father, a pastor encourages me and others to support family and black owned businesses. I SUPPORT BLACK OWNED BUSINESSES. The church use to be the backbone of the African American community. Where are our leaders? It's seems that we have lost our way and we need to figure out where we went wrong.

Why don't we support one another? If we could just understand the impact that supporting one another would have within society. Why do we support everyone else rather than each other? Instead of trying to impress one another we need to start working together.

You can post, tweet, protest, and riot but what are you DOING to change the current circumstances?

Black people have been taught to fear one another, to hate one another, and to hate ourselves. It is time that we wake up!

Some people are praying for peace and praying for change but not willing to put in any work to bring about this change. NO WORK....NO RESULTS!!!! LET'S UPLIFT ONE ANOTHER.

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Monday, October 20, 2014


How did we get here?
Damaged and incomplete

What did I say?
What did I do?

What didn't I say?
What didn't I do?

I'm searching
Trying to figure this all out

Is it because I won't listen?
Or because you won't listen?

Is it because I won't share?
Or because you won't share?

We act out how we feel
Refusing to say how we feel

Or when we say how we feel
It's comes out all wrong

For those feelings have been
bottled up inside for way too long

When did we become broken?
Was it the day our lives changed forever?

Truth be told I really don't know
So much time has passed

So much pain and hurt
Too stubborn to deal with our broken pieces
So we remain broken.....

There are many things that can cause a relationship to become broken, but there are also many ways to restore a relationship. The choice is up to you. I'm praying for all the broken relationships in my life and in the lives of my readers. If we do our part, God can do the rest.

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Friday, October 3, 2014

Everything Will Work Itself Out

Last night in bible study I was asked this question, "How do you know that you have faith?" Anyone that knows me, knows that I am very organized and that I like to plan ahead. I like to know what's going to take place before it happens.

Having that type of personality can cause you to worry a lot. When you have faith, you spend less time worrying. Instead, you turn over the things that you can not control or change to God. So that's what I'm doing with every issue that I'm facing right now in my life. I'm giving it to God. Yes, I think about things, I strategize, I'm preoccupied, but it's not as bad as it use to be.

I know that God will take care of me no matter what the situation looks like. He is already taking care of me even when I don't expect it at times. In order to sacrifice, you have to believe that God will provide you with whatever you have given up and even more.  If something doesn't work out the way that you expected, then it wasn't a part of God's plan for your life. I believe that without God in my life, I would fail.

Faith is not knowing what the answer is, but believing that God will work that situation out. If you try to do it in your own power then you don't have faith. If your faith is never tested, then you can't truly know that you have faith.

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Thursday, September 18, 2014


So, it's been six months since I started my journey.  I'm learning that if you truly want to know how to eat right you have to search for that information yourself. You can not depend on anyone else to tell you how to eat right.

In all of my 29 years, I am discovering so much about food and nutrition that I never knew. I feel like I'm obligated to share what I know with others. My goal right now is not to only know what is good for me to eat, but to know exactly what the benefits are from eating that particular food. I will be an expert at this stuff!!!

It was an documentary "Forks Over Knives" that persuaded me to switch to a vegan lifestyle. It is my goal to share my experiences of nutrition and health through a documentary so that I can help others achieve healthier lifestyles.

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Sunday, August 24, 2014

When You Getting Married?

Today's message had me thinking about the true purpose of marriage. As I gave it some thought, I came to the realization that I may never get married.

Believe it or not, there is more to life than being married. Not every individual is meant to be married. On the other hand, we may be meant for marriage but just not right now. So many women are searching for love and looking for another individual to complete them.

In order to make someone else happy, you first need to figure out what makes you happy. Figure out what your purpose is here on earth. Set some goals for yourself and then achieve them. If you can do good by yourself then it is likely that you will do good with someone else.

More importantly, make God the center of your life. Without him, any relationship is doomed to fail. I thought of the people that I know with successful long term marriages and one particular couple popped into mind. It is sad to think about how marriage isn't really valued by society anymore and that individuals close to me are no longer married. Actually, the majority of the people that I know come from divorced homes, broken homes, or broken marriages.

So, my eagerness to get married is very small. I'll get married when and if God decides that I should be married. Until then, I will continue to live my life. Leaning to God for understanding concerning his will for my life.

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Saturday, July 19, 2014


I'm a runaway who came back
I ran from what I knew that was right
But God kept me from messing up my life
He knew that I withdrew from the truth
Yet he kept me within his sight.

My plan without God led me astray
I always knew I would come home
I mean I really couldn't live any other way

It was fun yes it was fun
Until consequences made me cry
Temporary pleasures with long term effects
I certainly can't deny

And so I returned to what I knew
What was instilled in me from the start
God's plans for me never changed
And by his grace I'm living them out today.

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Sunday, July 13, 2014


I hide a lot behind this smile. I'm realizing that when individuals do things to offend me I don't truly forgive them.  I just move on without verbally expressing my feelings about the situation.

 Many times I express my feelings through my behavior which usually means shutting down or shutting that person out.  Other times, I just act like everything is okay.

However, I realize that when it comes to the individuals that I love and truly care about I must make a greater effort to communicate what I'm feeling. If not, unforgiveness will destroy me.

So, I'm going to be praying for this area in my life, especially with my family because they mean the world to me. If you like this post feel free to like my Facebook page PurposeDrivenAmbition:

Saturday, June 28, 2014


This is one of the most abused phrases communicated among believers and unbelievers. It might sound like a good comeback to say "only God can judge me", but are you really ready to face his judgement? Yes, we all fall short but we are to make a conscious effort to live a righteous life. For those who don't believe in God, I pray that you are able to really comprehend those words "only God can judge me" because it's really nothing to play with.

Especially, as Christians we should not use that phrase as an excuse to continue in behaviors that we know are not pleasing to God. I mean what's the point of saying you love God and believe in God if you don't listen to him. You are just better off living your life, your way and leaving God out of it. Yes, everyone has a different spiritual walk and spiritual growth is a gradual process. However, I pray that God is making a difference in your life that it causes you to make some changes.

As a Christian myself,  many times I am discouraged by the behaviors of those who claim to love the Lord. So, can you imagine someone that is looking for the love of Christ, what they must be going through.

Think about all those close to you and ask yourself this question.  Am I drawing them closer to Christ? Take it a step further and ask them if you are indeed drawing them closer to Christ. If you claim that you're part of the team, then represent and put in some work. Your purpose here on Earth is to spread God's love through the life that you live.


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Wednesday, June 11, 2014


I wouldn't be the woman that I am today if it wasn't for my father. I am truly blessed to have a wonderful father in my life. I don't know any other man that I can depend on like my father.

I'm very thankful for the spiritual influence that my father has had in my life. Looking back at the man who I thought was so strict, I wouldn't trade it for anything.

Through the years I have learned that no matter how old that you get, a father will always remain protective over his daughter.

We don't always agree on everything but we still love one another. I have learned that I only get one father and there is no reason to ruin a relationship over how I feel about something.

He is so full of wisdom and his life reflects that wisdom. He is honest and open  and lets me know if he is bothered by something. He has taught me that as a woman I must communicate my feelings and always stand up for myself.

My father is very supportive and gives great advice as I pursue my dreams. He has always rewarded me for my accomplishments which encouraged me to do even better.

My dad has been a great example to me of how I should be treated by my future husband. He has encouraged me to keep my standards high and to never settle.

There is so much that I can say about my dad, but I'll save that for the book that I will write about him someday. I will of course include him in a documentary somewhere down the line.

To my father, Leevone M. Brock,


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Friday, June 6, 2014

Tame Her

The strength of a woman
With a vision in sight

She has learned from past mistakes
Realizing there's no time to waste

She give truths
That fall on deafening ears

Defying the idea of
Going along to get along

She may travel alone
But this was the road that was chosen for her

 She can't let you be
 And fail in fulfilling her destiny

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Wednesday, May 28, 2014


I hate starting something and not finishing it. Pretty much anything that I set my mind to, I will do it.

A lot of individuals are expecting results without consistency.

It is easy for my generation to get excited about different things,  but we have a hard time in achieving the end result.

I attribute my success to my personality and having individuals in my circle that have proven to be successful in life.

If you haven't had to work for anything or haven't set any goals for yourself, it will be hard for you to grasp the concept of "SHOWING UP."

I know that I will get where I want to be in life because I will continue to show up. You don't stop when things don't go your way. Don't be afraid to ask others for help.

Funny thing is, there is so much information and so many individuals willing to help us out. We just have to be willing to put in some work.

If you continue to "show up", you will thank yourself 5, 10, 15 years down the road. You might be young now, but you won't always be young.  Saying what you should have, could have, or would have done won't mean a thing.


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Saturday, May 17, 2014


Oh, you thought he liked you. No, he liked what he could get from you. Women that need to have a man in their life will always remain a victim to the game. There are too many women going hard for men that just see them in the physical sense. A man will run game on any woman that allows him to do so. He knows when a woman isn't strong enough to demand respect for herself.

You cannot manipulate a man into staying with you. He might be with you physically for the time being, but that doesn't guarantee that he isn't elsewhere.What are you getting for everything that you are giving up physically, mentally, and emotionally? It's time to stop throwing our hearts and bodies away for men that could care less about us.

The only way to know that you don't need a man in your life, is to not have one in your life. Once you accomplish that then you have control. This may be easy for some and harder for others. From what I see, there are many women that have difficulty grasping this concept.

If you really want to know if a man truly likes or loves you for the woman that you are, take sex off of the table. All men are interested in sex, but that usually clears out any man that wasn't interested in anything other than sex. Yes, you have to force a man to respect you. He needs to earn what he wants, it is not to be given for free.

Actions reveal a lot. Many women overlook the signs that are right in front of their faces just to say that they have a man in their life. If you need a man to validate who you are, then you have a wrong and long road ahead of you. Ladies we can't keep doing the same thing and expect a different result.

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Thursday, May 15, 2014

Break the Cycle

"I wish we could just break the cycle." Those were my words to my Dad as we drove past low income housing in Norfolk, VA this weekend.

So how do we break the cycle of drugs, crime, and violence that seems to plague our cities and neighborhoods generation after generation?

Basically,  you have to do what you can with what you have. It's really not about telling others what they should do, but taking the time to ask them how you can help them.

You will learn so much if you just take time to listen. You have to want to know why people are hurting and you have to care.

We also have to start loving ourselves more. If you don't love yourself you can't effectively love and help others. 

It takes an unconditional type of love to be able to deal with individuals and get to the root cause of the issues that are being manifested in our lives.

Let God direct you, because with him anything is possible.  If you believe that he has placed a certain call on your life, he will confirm it. Surround yourself around individuals that support you and that are able to pray for and with you. 

Always remember that just because you may not visually see a person's wounds, it doesn't mean that they are not there. 

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Monday, May 12, 2014


Oh my, 29 is just around the corner. Where did time go? I remember telling my Dad I can't wait until I'm 18. I also remember him telling me that he didn't want to hear me say that again. Then, I reached the age of 18 and what did that mean. NOTHING!!!!. Yes, I was legally an adult,  but still very immature.

Twenty one came not too far behind and all that meant was that I could legally drink, get into the clubs that I couldn't get into before, and time to get my own life insurance. So now, I'm knocking at the dreaded door of 30. It is something about being in your twenties that's hard to let go. Well, for most women (I think) we just don't want to get old. Even if I don't look or feel old I don't want to say I'm thirty.

Nevertheless,  I will embrace it. I have learned so much in my twenties and I'm ready for the next chapter of my life. I will enjoy this last year in my twenties and continue to chase after my dreams.

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Friday, April 25, 2014


So there have been quite a few things going in my life lately and it has caused me to look at myself and how I deal with life. From the surface, I think many times it may appear that I don't care about people. Sometimes, that's true but many times it's not. The people that I care about the most are my family. If they are going through something, then I'm also going through it.

However, I know that I haven't always displayed lots of affection and attention to them. Mostly, because I was young and dealt life the best way I knew how. Which included being selfish and self-centered. So now that I'm older, it's super important that I am able to show the ones that I love that I care about them.

So of course if I am this way with my family, I wouldn't treat those who don't know me any different. In a sense, I think that when you don't allow yourself to be deeply connected to others you protect yourself from heartache and pain. However, I also believe that it can backfire on you.

I honestly can't really relate to having my heartbroken other than my freshman year of college. Now don't get me wrong I have been hurt by people but not to the extreme I guess. I purposely don't attach myself to others and I don't really trust others. I hate being skeptical and having my guard up but it's the only way that I know how to be. I don't have a lot of friends because I refuse to let most people into my life. When I do let people in my life they usually don't remain.

Even right now I'm writing because I'm dealing with a lot. I'm able to clear my mind through writing. I do have a few individuals that I can talk to. However, depending on the situation I'm not always able to say everything that I want to say. So I'm not heartless, I just don't show a lot of emotion.


I no longer want to be that person.

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Tuesday, April 22, 2014


One thing that I have extreme difficulty with is forming long lasting bonds with other women. In some ways, I just can't identify with most women. I still haven't determined the root cause of this. I have even wished that I don't marry a minister or pastor just so that I don't have to socialize or entertain the other women in the church. I know that's very selfish of me.

However, I realize that I have been equipped to share my experiences and knowledge with other females. More importantly young girls. There are some things that I experienced in life that I tried to handle on my own. I keep a lot inside and sometimes that isn't good especially for younger females.

Sometimes, I feel like my personality and gifts don't match. I don't like opening up but it's like I know I have to if I want to help others. Even as a big sis, I tried to maintain a certain image for my younger sisters. Now that I'm older I realize that if I communicated more with them (especially my two youngest sisters) it may have benefited them. My other sister and I were really close in age so we talked and shared a lot more with each other.

On a positive note, my relationship with my mother and my sisters is pretty good and I'm thankful to God for that. I just pray for guidance that I'm able to build bridges instead of walls. Maybe once I start talking I will realize that I do have more things in common with other women that I come in contact with.

You can't grow in a comfort zone. Your comfort zone may be something different. It's time to face your fears and step out of that comfort zone.

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Sunday, April 6, 2014


I'M BACK!!!!! So it's been a month since I started my vegan journey, which has turned out to be 100% vegetarian and semi-vegan. Last week I found out that some of the pasta that I have been consuming may have eggs in it. So now, I will make sure that any pasta that I eat does not have eggs in it. Also, honey, gelatin, and glycerin are not considered vegan but I must admit that I do consume those. Nevertheless, I am happy to say that as of April 5, 2014 I finally reached my weight goal of 150 lbs. Funny thing is that I wasn't even trying to lose more weight. However, when you eat healthy and exercise regularly you magically lose weight :-). Now to not losing too much more weight and staying healthy.

If you really want something, you have to work hard for it. There are no shortcuts and there is no easy way out. If you put in the work you will get results. Even when you feel like giving up you must continue on. Even when others may think that you are crazy or going a bit overboard, you have to remember the goal that you set for yourself.

This picture is from this past Thursday, after a super stressful day at work but I still made myself go to the gym. You have to push yourself!!!!
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Sunday, March 9, 2014


So I decided to adopt a vegan lifestyle today. I will consume honey so therefore I won't be a pure vegan. The decision came after viewing the documentary, "Fork Over Knives." I decided if I am going to work so hard to look good on the outside, I might as well apply that same effort to what I put into my body. I am already pretty conscious about what I put in my body so I don't think it will be as difficult as you may think. The hardest part for me will be avoiding dairy and animal based products. I don't eat a lot of meat anyways. Well, I regularly ate chicken, tuna, and salmon.

Well, day one was okay until I decided to go to a restaurant for lunch without researching if they had vegan options. Needless to say, I ended up leaving that restaurant. The biggest obstacle that I see is substituting meat for bread. I don't eat a lot of bread, so I definitely need to find a way to quickly cut back on that. Another disadvantage is that this lifestyle is very expensive. Eating healthy in general is expensive.

So as long as I don't experience any health issues I plan to make this a way of life. I will probably go for a health checkup in three months to make sure that I am not deficient in any vitamins or nutrients. So if you want to go out with me make sure there is a salad on the I'm playing well kind of, there are vegan restaurants out there so all hope is not lost for me.

I will keep you all updated on my journey. 


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Thursday, February 20, 2014

Classy Women Never Negotiate!!!

Classy women don't negotiate their value. When you know your worth you don't settle for less. Yes, no one wants to be alone. But are you willing to be with someone at any cost? It has always been a rule of mine to never chase a man. One, because I was taught that it is the man's responsibility to seek after that which he desires. Two, just not in my nature to chase after a guy. Three, I'm too busy chasing my dreams, no time for chasing men.

A man knows what he wants, and he will go after what he wants. If you have to go after him, either he doesn't want you or he is not man enough to go after you. It is as simple as that. I personally don't want someone who doesn't want me and I definitely do not want a passive man.

Women that pursue men give out their number without being asked, ask men out on dates, and the worst thing that a woman can do is ask a man to marry them. Now there is a difference in telling a guy that you are looking for a serious relationship that is going to lead to marriage. Or let's say that you have been in a relationship for a while and you mention to him that you are ready to get married. I'm okay with that, but if you have to give a ultimatum like marry me or I'm leaving then I'm a bit worried.

 Let's say that you do spark up a conversation with a guy, it is up to him to take the hint. If he doesn't take it, there is nothing else that you need to do. Women with class do not chase after men and they do not flaunt themselves as if they are for sale. Some women get mad if a man approaches them a certain way based on how they are dressed. If I'm advertising myself but then I decide I'm not available why am I mad at the guy. Most men are initially attracted to what they can see with their eyes. So if you expect a man to respect you, you first have to respect yourself in the way that you dress, talk and behave.

You know what you want, you know what you are bringing to the table. Therefore, there is no room for negotiation.

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Sunday, February 9, 2014


“American Promise” is a documentary that tells the story of two African American males and their experience with education in America. It deals with issues of race, class, gender, and education. It shows how the males have to adapt to being different from their peers at Dalton and their peers when they are not at school. They have to assimilate and integrate in order to receive an education that is deemed acceptable in American society.

 Babby Krents, the admissions director at Dalton made a comment that really didn’t sit well with me. She said, “I won’t accept a child if I don’t think he or she can handle the work, but diversity is a big commitment of ours.” It just seemed as if she was saying that the majority of children of color cannot handle the work level. It really wasn’t what she said, but the fact that many children of color cannot handle the work at Dalton. While it might appear that race is what distinguishes us from one another, it really is a class issue. A lot of black children cannot even afford to go to that school or they would be there. Many children cannot handle the work load because they do not have the resources and do not have the support to keep up. Often times those without the resources, are the children of color. Every child in America should be able to receive the same level of education and it shouldn’t depend on class or race.

For example, let’s say that I as an African American female had the same resources as one of my white peers from the day that I was born, I know that life would have been a lot different for me. That isn't to say that it would have made me a better person. I also believe that the impact of race and class depends a lot on location. As a resident of Arlington, Virgina I am able to see the impact of race and class. There is a lot of diversity here but class still separates the races. Education is important and diversity is important. Yet, you shouldn’t have to lose your identity to obtain a proper education. The boys dealt with emotional issues because they felt so different from their peers. Idris says, “I bet if I was white, I’d be better off.” No child should ever feel that he is not good enough, especially when it comes to race.

I commend the parents for sending their children to Dalton. They didn’t do anything wrong, they did what they felt what was best for their children. Every child should be encouraged to work hard no matter their race, their class, or where they live. My parents supported and encouraged me to be a good student. As the product of the public school system their commitment and devotion made me the woman that I am today. 

Another message that was conveyed throughout the documentary was that you cannot judge a book by its cover. Many of the children at Dalton dealt with the same issues as Idris and Seun. Also, without knowing Seun many may have called him a thug because of the locks and the way that he dressed. Honestly, I would have never guessed that he went to Dalton by his appearance. As a society, we judge a person by their appearance before we take time to get to know who they are as a person.

I really enjoyed the documentary. These are issues that our black males are dealing with in America today. Unfortunately, many times we are not aware of what is going on with others around us until it is brought to our attention.

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Wednesday, February 5, 2014


Social media is one the best networking tools available to us today. If you are not using social media to network you are really missing out. I'm sure my readers have noticed that I haven't written in awhile. Well, I have been pursuing my goals as a film director, producer, and writer. In a relatively short time I have networked with several different individuals. Connections have taken place via social media, email, and word of mouth. A simple Instagram post, business card, and email has connected me with several different individuals. What I'm learning is that you have to market yourself before you can expect someone else to market you.Take advantage of the tools that are already available to you. There are no excuses with all the technology that is now made available to us today.

With that being said, please help support me through social media as I express my passion for producing and writing documentary films. I already have several ideas and have begin writing for a web series that I'm working on with another individual. Tonight my roommate said, "I can tell that you're passionate about this, I can see it in your eyes." She is right. My first love is writing and now I want to put my writing on the film screen. Most importantly, I know that I can't do anything without putting God first. I will always keep him first in my life no matter how high he takes me.

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Website and Youtube page coming soon!!!!

I would love to hear your thoughts...just to know that I'm not talking to myself :-)

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Sunday, January 12, 2014


True friends randomly stop by your house on a Friday night to visit with you. Not all friends do that, but I'm blessed to have such wonderful friends that do. As I get older, I realize that we don't really have friends but rather associates. There only a few people in life that truly care about you. I never had a lot of friends anyways, but there are individuals that I really thought were my friends and turned out they were not. I think that's why it really hurts when people cut you off because I don't just let anyone into my life. Many times I try to figure out what I did wrong, but many times I didn't do anything wrong.

What is a friend? A friend is someone who is there for you in the good times and the bad times. A friend keeps it real with you and tells you when you are wrong. If you are doing all the giving in the relationship, then you do not have a friend. I try to be a very friendly person and I pretty much get along with anyone. However, I can no longer can afford to invest in relationships that really have no meaning.  Surround yourself with people that will invest in you just as much as you invest in them. Take a look at the individuals that you call friends and really analyze the relationship. You choose who gets to be a part of your life.  Choose your friends wisely.

Proverbs 17;17

A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

Proverbs 18;24

A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly; and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

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Sunday, January 5, 2014

Grown Men Don't Cry

What does it mean to be a man? I believe that most men are afraid to express their feelings for fear of being called emotional or weak. The fact that I only witnessed a few men cry in my lifetime confirms that for me. I couldn't imagine wanting to express my feelings but having to contain them to maintain a certain image. Actually, I am sometimes guilty of keeping my emotions locked away. However, as a woman I am expected to cry or express my emotions.

Sometimes, you will hear the phrase "even grown men were crying" pretty much implying that men don't cry. Crying is an expression of what we are feeling at the time. You should be allowed to release your emotions no matter your sex. I honestly believe that if you are not allowed to express your feelings that you will go crazy. When I see a man cry, it makes me cry or want to cry.

Men have some of the same emotions as women but have been taught to withhold these emotions. This is unhealthy and unfair. A man that doesn't open up is unhealthy especially in a relationship. Expressing your feelings and thoughts does not make you less of a man. As a female that has had men express their feelings and emotions to her, I know that there is a need for men to be able to openly express their feelings without being judged.

If a man does decide to express his emotions and feelings it will be with a woman that he trusts. However, I believe that men should also be able to share these same emotions with other male friends. A lot of men try to be a man based on what they have been taught that makes them a man. I have learned that real men are secure enough to express their feelings and emotions and to know that it doesn't make them less of a man.

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Wednesday, January 1, 2014


There are misconceptions about all types of women. However, I think independent women are misunderstood the most. One of the biggest misconceptions of independent women is that they don't want a man to tell them what to do or that they are not submissive. That is so far from the truth. A confident woman doesn't want a man that she can boss around and tell him what to do. However, she will also make it clear that she will not put up with just anything.

Another misconception about independent women is that they do not need a man. There are women that will say that they don't need a man. In fact, independent women do need companionship. Just because you can do something by yourself, doesn't necessarily mean that you should do it by yourself. We were designed to be a help to men. However, they will not let a relationship status define who they are as a person.

Independent women are only focused on their careers. While this is true for some independent women, there are independent women that long to have a family. For example, my sister and I are both very independent women with very different goals for our lives. It is the goals that you establish for yourself and how you take care of yourself that makes you an independent woman.

Independent women are harder to approach. Well, if you have nothing to offer that woman, then yeah you might feel that way. If a woman is not confident in who she is, how can she possibly provide support to her spouse?

Independent women are less feminine. Independence should not take away from the loving, supportive, and fostering qualities of a woman.

Every woman should know how to take care of herself. My parents taught my sisters and I how to take care of ourselves. So, not only do we know how to take care of ourselves but we also know to take care of a man. Truth is, a man is not always guaranteed to be in your life. Those should not be qualities that only independent women possess. My parents didn't necessarily teach me to be an independent woman, but the qualities that they instilled in me as a young girl allows me to be an independent young lady.

Are you an independent woman?

Do you feel misunderstood?

Were you taught to be independent?

Are you a man/woman that is intimidated by other independent women?

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Thank God for a New Year. I'm glad that I'm continually growing into the person that God wants me to be. I pray that I'm able to encourage someone even if it is only one person through the life that I live.