Monday, December 9, 2013

That's So Old Fashioned.....

There are some aspects of tradition that we should hold on to. Although, it may have taken me some years (forever) to arrive to this conclusion, some traditions really do make sense. Traditionally, when men were interested in dating a woman they would obtain permission from the father. Now, I know that sounds crazy for our society today. However, when I think about the guys that I have encountered in my life, I could have saved myself from a lot of trouble if I had consulted with my father first. Even today, the thought of telling a guy you have to talk to my father first in order to date me is a bit dated to me. Mostly, because I think that I'm grown and I have a hard time listening sometimes. Now, I won't go to the extreme of telling a guy that he has to ask my father permission to date me. However, I do go to my father for advice regarding men.

The best advice that a woman can get about a man is from a man. If you all didn't know I am a debater. So, many times I try to find another perspective on a situation. Many times I try to give guys the benefit of the doubt but father knows best. Even though I don't want to hear what he has to say sometimes, I know that I will be better off if I run my thoughts and feelings by him. Some women may feel like their fathers are overbearing and just want to ruin their lives. In actuality, the father is looking out for the daughter because many times he knows that women will experience hurt if they entertain certain men. Basically, when you don't consult with your father or a male figure in your life you are left to figure out things for yourself. Think about it, if you have a good father or male figure in your life he will more than likely be able to spot another good man.

I am so glad that I have matured enough to confide in my father. It is important that I take my experiences so that other young girls and young women can avoid situations that I have gone through.

Girls and young women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence -- almost triple the national average.

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  1. Thanks for listening, you won't regret it :)


  2. Naomi it is ideal to confide in your father or a male role model, however, you must confide in male role model 's that has experience and has prevailed in pursuing a successful relationships. Talk to your parents and to others that has achieved a lastly loving relationship. For example your Uncle June. He really loves his wife and he is so proud of her. I believe his love for his wife is like the Love Christ has for the Church. Naomi the Lord is very proud of you and he is you heavenly father and I will ask Him to send you a Godly companion that will love you the way Christ loves the Church. Love Mom

    1. Mom....the success of a relationship depends on both parties involved. No relationship is guaranteed. A man that has had unsuccessful and successful relationships is still able to provide insight on the quality of a good man.

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