Monday, December 30, 2013


I guess I'm at the age where I am going to keep hearing about me having kids. Believe it or not, I'm not worried about my biological clock. I'm a very smart young lady and I pay attention to those around me. Why would I rush into a situation if I'm not ready to be in that situation. How you see your life, isn't how I see my life. So, can I live my life? I don't need another person to complete me. Too many people are looking for another person to make them happy when they are not already happy with themselves. I personally don't care what others think about the way that I choose to live my life. I'm the only one that has to live with the decisions that I make.

There is never a reason for anyone to settle. Even if you start to feel lonely, don't give in. Love yourself and become the best you. Imagine how much more you will have to offer to your future spouse. As my dad said, "Wonderful people deserve wonderful people." If you know that you are an amazing person, why would you settle for someone not as amazing as you? I mean I'm better off by myself if you're not bringing more to the table or something different than what I already have. Hopefully, this will encourage someone who is looking for love but not completely content with who they are as a person. If you are meant to be with someone it will work out, you don't have to rush into anything.

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Monday, December 9, 2013

That's So Old Fashioned.....

There are some aspects of tradition that we should hold on to. Although, it may have taken me some years (forever) to arrive to this conclusion, some traditions really do make sense. Traditionally, when men were interested in dating a woman they would obtain permission from the father. Now, I know that sounds crazy for our society today. However, when I think about the guys that I have encountered in my life, I could have saved myself from a lot of trouble if I had consulted with my father first. Even today, the thought of telling a guy you have to talk to my father first in order to date me is a bit dated to me. Mostly, because I think that I'm grown and I have a hard time listening sometimes. Now, I won't go to the extreme of telling a guy that he has to ask my father permission to date me. However, I do go to my father for advice regarding men.

The best advice that a woman can get about a man is from a man. If you all didn't know I am a debater. So, many times I try to find another perspective on a situation. Many times I try to give guys the benefit of the doubt but father knows best. Even though I don't want to hear what he has to say sometimes, I know that I will be better off if I run my thoughts and feelings by him. Some women may feel like their fathers are overbearing and just want to ruin their lives. In actuality, the father is looking out for the daughter because many times he knows that women will experience hurt if they entertain certain men. Basically, when you don't consult with your father or a male figure in your life you are left to figure out things for yourself. Think about it, if you have a good father or male figure in your life he will more than likely be able to spot another good man.

I am so glad that I have matured enough to confide in my father. It is important that I take my experiences so that other young girls and young women can avoid situations that I have gone through.

Girls and young women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence -- almost triple the national average.

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Wednesday, December 4, 2013

You're Not Alone....

Many times people like to focus on their strengths. However, it is really the weaknesses that other individuals can relate to. It is a reminder that we are all human beings. Today, I was asked what are two things that I need to work on about myself. I responded, being stubborn and being a perfectionist. Both of these qualities can be good and bad, but I think that I let them get the best of me sometime.

I say that I'm stubborn because when I have my mind set to do something, there is really nothing that will keep me from accomplishing it. However, sometimes it is hard for me to listen to others because I think that I already know. I can say that I have become a bit better with my stubbornness.

For anyone close to me you know that I'm very picky and that I try to do almost everything perfectly. Many times it is not necessary and can be very time consuming. It also causes me to be very hard on myself and sometimes hard on other individuals.

Unfortunately, these are things about me that may never change. As hard as I try to change these characteristics about myself, I still find it very difficult. At least I realize that these are areas that I need to work on in my life.

The purpose of this post was to express that no matter how strong of a person that you think that you are, we all struggle with something. Don't be afraid to expose your weaknesses and ask for help if needed.

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