Thursday, August 15, 2013


Have you asked yourself that question lately? It seems that when you reach a certain age, that the expectations of you getting married and having children increase. This is especially true for women. Why are we in a rush to get married? What if I'm not ready to be married? What if I don't want to be married? To be honest,  I haven't really thought much about why I am single because being single doesn't really bother me.

As a young girl, my parents taught me how to take care of the home as a woman. My sisters and I were taught to cook, clean, wash clothes, etc. So, even though I was taught what is expected of a woman as a wife, I never spent much time daydreaming about my wedding day. In fact, I never seriously thought about marriage until 2-3 years ago. Marriage was just another goal on my list and I would check it off when I reached that point in my life.

Present day, yes I would love to be married. However, being married isn't everything to me right now. Even in my happiness, I sometimes wonder if there is something wrong with me. It frustrates me when people can't understand how an individual can actually be happy with being single. There are so many negative connotations around being single, that you would think that something was wrong with a person that is happy and single.

I'm more interested in finding out who I am as a person, and making sure that I have it together. When it is time for me to be in a relationship that is destined for marriage, God will make that happen. Until that time, I'm not waiting on a man. I'm living my life single, happy, and blessed.

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  1. My dear daughter, you're so accurate in your analyses of this world's view on single people. If single people are viewed as being in such a mess because they are single, then when they get married they are in more of a mess if you do the math, two messes coming together in a marriage equal twice as much mess, but a single person who is confident when married to someone who is also confident in themselves equal to two self-confident people, not because of marriage but because of confidence in one"s self. No one should ever believe that their lives consist of nothing unless they are married. The real benefit of marriage is of that when two people compliment and accommodate one another, much like a like a patient in need of a kidney, any donor won't match just because you need a kidney, and also for someone who does not need a kidney there is no need then for them to get a kidney transplant. The old folks used to say "we ought to just leave well enough alone" :)
    Much Love The Big Man Dad

  2. Thanks Dad....I want my marriage to last forever and I will wait as long as it takes for me to get married.

  3. I hate the stigma that follows the term "single". I agree with you 100%, however most women have come to accept that there is something wrong if they're single for an extended period of time. Women that lack self esteem, women that haven't found an identity in Christ, women that were never defined by their fathers... I believe that women created the stigma and the other gender has accepted it. We teach our children that they are to go to school, get an education, "make something of themselves", and get married.... when really the whole goal in life should be service to God... and FORTUNATELY He hasn't called us all to serve in the same capacity... so marriage may be a service for you in this season... while discipleship of women is service for me... I love this post!!! Thanks for sharing!

    1. Thanks for the encouragement. You're right in all that we do in life we must make sure that God is getting the glory.


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