Friday, January 4, 2013


I was talking to one of my friends the other night and I actually learned something new about how we choose who we date. He told me that he had been taught to date a certain type of woman, but he has found that he prefers to date a simple woman. Let me explain. For example, I am in my late twenties, I have two degrees, a job, and no children. Therefore, I might be inclined to only date men that have similar attributes. I guess I found his statement interesting because I have never been taught to date a man based on his education or economic status, but rather his character.

However, the individual that I am speaking of is also highly educated, late twenties, and no children. However, he was taught to date educated, ambitious women. However, he has come to the realization that he just wants someone who will be there to devote their time. She doesn't have to possess several degrees or make a certain amount of money. Of course, she can't be dumb but she doesn't have to be highly educated.

For me, character is key when selecting a mate. However, I also prefer an individual that is educated, without children, and with similar life goals. However, it could be possible that two very ambitious educated individuals could find themselves neglecting time for one another. So maybe another version of yourself isn't always the greatest idea.

Would you typically date someone with similar qualities as yourself? Do the individuals that you prefer to date line up with the individuals that you have been taught to date? Is it okay to date someone based on one's education and economic status? Is good character enough, or do they need to have other qualities? Are you setting yourself up with unrealistic expectations of a potential mate? I know that everyone has different preferences, I'm just curious to see how you all respond?




  1. Well Naomi, I know that you know that the bible really doesn't mention dating and this present generation has so many obstacles to face about relationships, so I hope that I can shed some light on this huge issue. Two things which are very important for every single person to always beware of; Number one is to get to know God, and let God teach you about yourself. Many times people think that they know God and themselves, but the TRUTH is people don't spend much time getting to know God, so that doesn't give much of chance for God to teach them about themselves. The Scripture says that you are to “Seek first the Kingdom of God and his Righteousness, and all the other things (including relationships) will automatically be added unto you (Matthew 6:33).So if you do the first thing first then the second thing can't get in the way of the first thing, but most people seek after relationships first, then they complain to God about it second. That’s like buying a car first, then trying to learn how drive it second, and now with everyone being so busy you can't find anyone who has the time to teach how to drive it, which makes you mad with people because they don't have time to solve your problem. Also the payments on the car are still due each month, and you become angry about that because you’re paying for a car that you don't know how to drive. So if single people would let God teach them about themselves first, they would not be so frustrated about relationships first. You don't order food that you don't eat DO YOU? You buy clothes that you can't wear DO YOU? So why date people that you will never end up marrying. Yea the same way you order your food and buy your clothes is very similar to how you should get involved in relationships. If you waste good food and buy clothes that you don't really wear, that is how mature you are about knowing yourself, and dating people who mostly are just as immature as you are, is a waste of good time gone bad.

    Much Love, Dad


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