Tuesday, June 19, 2012


How many times have you heard women say the phrase "I can't find a good man"? Have you ever considered that it is not the man with the problem, but maybe you have a problem? One reason that you might not have a good man is because you should not be out searching for a man. The man is suppose to seek out the woman. Now even though men may appear to prefer the easy, available women they really have no respect for you at all. Proverbs 18;22 tells us that "whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing". So as a good woman, you should have a good man and you should never settle for less.

Now the type of men that you entertain once you are sought out is up to you. The type of standards that you set will determine whether you will be discovered by a good man. Some times you find yourself in bad relationships because you are associating with the wrong people and congregating in the wrong places. If you go to the club in search of a good man it is very unlikely that you will find him. If you happen to meet a man there and he presents himself as a bad guy there is no reason to entertain him.  A lot of women date men that they know are not good for them and then complain about the outcome. If you decide to pursue the relationship you have no one to blame but yourself.

Secondly, you might be overlooking a good man that is right in front of your face. Sometimes, women have unrealistic expectations. If you focus on the wrong things you might miss out on a good man. Just as you are not a perfect woman, there are no perfect men. Therefore, you are not going to get everything that you want in one man. This will require some compromise on your part. Now you don't have to settle for a guy that is not worthy of you. However, if you are waiting for Mr. Perfect you will be waiting forever and you will find yourself alone.

Thirdly, the fact that you even exist is unknown. Now you can't expect to be found if you never get out of the house. By no means am I encouraging you to run the streets, but you have to have some type of exposure with the outside world. There are activities that you can participate in such as volunteering in your community and being active in your local church. What do you know, maybe you will meet someone while shopping at the store . You also have to surround yourself with individuals that possess the same values as you. I think that it is more important to know what to look for in good man than to know where a good man might possibly find you. If you don't know what to look for, you may be easily fooled by an appearance. A good man is respectful, caring, loving, and honest. These traits are displayed through deeds and actions. A good man will not cheat on you and he will not abuse you. My father has always told me that if a man respects his mother, he is more likely to respect you. If he doesn't respect the woman that gave him life, you can believe that he won't respect you.

Finally, what do you have to offer? Even a good man doesn't want just any type of woman. Good men have expectations as well. You should always strive to be the best woman that you can be. You can't expect to have a good man in your life if you are not a good woman. Reevaluate yourself, along with your actions and maybe a good man will find you.


  1. That't powerful Naomi.

    Love Dad

  2. Very true indeed! Great post!

  3. AMEN to this. You are indeed correct - if you focus on being the best woman you can be, you will attract a better man. Like (typically) attracts like. I like your blog. :)



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