Monday, June 25, 2012


Sex is everywhere you go. You see it on television, hear it in music, and read about it in magazines. So why aren't we openly talking about it with our children and with each other? Many people are hesitant to talk about sex. Sex is such an issue in society because many parents are afraid to discuss it with their children. Telling your child not to have sex is not enough. Parents would rather send their children to school and let someone else educate them about sex. Even though sex before marriage is wrong from a biblical standpoint there are so many other factors involved that are not being dealt with. Parents it is your responsibility to educate your child about sex. How you educate them will affect the rest of their lives.

Ideally, we would love for all children not to engage in sexual activity before marriage but that is not reality. While we preach that sex is wrong, we also need to educate our children and even some adults on why it is wrong. We first need to explain the spiritual aspects, but then we need to explain the natural aspects. The main advantage of two virgins waiting to engage in sex before marriage is that they do not have to deal with outside baggage such children from other relationships and most importantly sexually transmitted diseases. "Another advantage is that they get to experience that moment together without distractions of past experiences". (paraphrased words of my father). As a child, growing up in a Christian household, I was taught that sex before marriage was wrong. I knew that I could get pregnant and I definitely didn't want that. That was about all I knew about sex. The little that I knew about sex after that came from knowledge through my friends in school and college. Even through those years I didn't know as much as I should have known.

So even though I knew that it was wrong, the only physical consequence that I could associate sex with was pregnancy. I soon learned through other sources that birth control would take care of that issue. So, I can't get pregnant, I'm good right? I'm sure I wasn't the only child or young adult who thought that way. I have learned so much through research of my own that it is not that simple. Information that I hope to share with my children someday.

The sad thing about our society is that we will have sex with someone with no questions asked. Then after we have sex we ask the questions.  Looks like we have the steps reversed. We do not value our lives. Why are you afraid to ask your partner if they have any sexually transmitted diseases? With everything that is out here, why wouldn't you? Are you not aware of what is going on around you. Are you ready to die? Yes, it is that serious. Take a look at the HIV/AIDS rates, especially among women. That temporary pleasure could affect the rest of your life. If you are big enough to have sex, then you should and need to be ready to deal with the consequences.

When I have children I want to be able to sit down with my child and tell them that they should save themselves for marriage. I also want them to know that if they decide not to, that there are many consequences, some that even result in death. I don't want my child to have to do research on their own. I want to be able to give them the facts so that they know exactly what they are dealing with. I will in no way condone sexual activity before marriage, but I will warn them of what will happen if they decide to engage in sex. I know this subject is a little touchy for some, but hey somebody had to do it. Let's start talking to our children and to each other. Be Blessed.


  1. NAOMI! THIS IS GREAT! You are so right. We dont talk about it enough. I love how the explained both biblical and natural aspects bc we are in a world today that doesnt even consider either. I especially like how you said abstinence allows for two virgins to experience sex for the first time when they are married. That is how it was intended to be. It is more simple that way and you can avoid the hardships that pre marital sex also brings like sex addictions etc. Also, people actually break up with their partner because the sex isnt good enough. Now if we all waited until marriage like we were called to do, then we wouldnt even know the difference between good and bad sex hence we wouldnt have a reason to break up with someone for not being good in bed.

  2. Thanks Mike....I really felt like this topic needed to be discussed.

  3. Great posting!!!! Keep up the good work .. We must
    Educate and tell the world about pre martial sex and the risk of it.

  4. Naomi every generation has to deal with the sins of its own generation. Sex is not a new subject but it is now more widley expressed openly then ever before. The book of Acts 13:26 says that David served his generation then he died, So continue to confront your generation with its sins before you die, "DO IT NOW"



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