Tuesday, January 17, 2012

THE FEAR OF LOVE NOT BEING ENOUGH

Never did I think that I would be the product of divorced parents. When my parents separated, I was partially able to escape reality because I went off to college and I left my troubles behind. As a young adult I really didn’t deal with the fact that my parents were separated. It felt so different because I grew up with both of my parents in the same household for 17 years of my life. It is hard to focus on anything good that comes from a divorce especially when children are involved, unless they were living in a dangerous environment. The children are forced to pick sides whether intentionally or unintentionally. All parties are hurt in some form. At the age of 26, I guess I am finally accepting that my parents are divorced. Some children deal with divorce from a very young age so they may become immune to it, or they may learn to cope with the situation. However, when I think of starting my family it doesn’t excite me that I will have to bring my children to visit their grandparents at different households. My parents were married for almost 19 years before they separated. After all that time and effort, it didn’t work out.  It is God's plan that once you become one with your spouse that you remain with them forever. What I have learned as a young adult is that so many individuals do not take time to really work on relationships. Both parties may be at fault, or one individual may decide that they don’t want to work it out. It appears that people choose to leave rather than to deal with the issues. In my opinion there is absolutely no reason for people to be divorced three and four times. Sometimes, it is easier to go and harder to stay. There is no need to repeat the same cycle over and over.  I know that sometimes divorce is unavoidable; I just feel that we should work harder to strengthen and maintain relationships with those that we love and have committed ourselves to for the rest of our lives. So, I guess the moral of this story is that even though love is not enough to make a relationship last forever, it is the other components that will make it last. Most of all a relationship that is ordained by God has a good chance of lasting forever if both parties follow the leading of the Spirit.

1 comment:

  1. We Naomi as I said before something good did come out of this situation for me, it was the most devastating experience I have ever had in my entire life, but with the help of the Lord I survived it, and what the devil meant for bad, God made it for good. And I must say that God helped me through the whole situation by remembering how strong my own mother was when she went through the same thing, and in my mind I would say that if she could practically raise eight children by herself, then I could handle the responsibility of four children by myself. As difficult as a divorce may be, I did not give up on my children in the most challenging time of my life. Yes two parents are better then one, but no parent at all is something that you did not have to endure.

    MUCH LOVE DAD

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