Wednesday, November 23, 2011


How many times have you packed for trip? Upon returning from that trip you realize that you did not need and did not use some things that you took along with you. Many times in life we carry around things or people in our life that we really don't need. These things or people are not necessarily a negative influence, but they also don't add anything positive to your life. Take a moment, can you think of anyone or anything that is currently in your life but they are not benefiting you? They basically provide you with a false sense of fulfillment. We keep these individuals or things around just in case. It is very important that we find out who and what we really need in our lives. Sometimes it is not the obvious things, so you may really have to devote some time to this task. Once you remove the excess and unnecessary baggage from your life you will have more room for positive things in your life. You will also be able to give more of yourself to others because the load that you were carrying has been lightened. Don't hold on to unnecessary baggage, if you haven't used it by now then chances are you won't need it. If you do need it, God will make a way for it to be in your life.

Sunday, November 20, 2011


Many times we put so much effort into plans that we have for our lives that we forget to prepare for the inevitable. Life doesn't always go as planned, so it is very important to have a backup plan. In society today, we have many athletes that rely on their talent alone and when that fails them they have nothing to fall back on. For example, the NBA lockout is affecting many NBA players. Without money coming in as usual they have to rely on other sources and skills to make up the difference. I believe that education should always come before athletics. Your talent may get you in the door but if it fails you, you will need something else to keep you afloat. Many people go to college and expect to find a job in their field. Sometimes it just doesn't happen that way, this is when Plan B come into play. It is better to have an undesirable Plan B or C, than not to have a plan at all. You can never put all your energy into one activity. As the saying goes, "don't put all your eggs into one basket". Life goes a lot smoother when you plan accordingly.

Friday, November 11, 2011


Weakness is not asking for help and then giving up. Many times we think being strong requires doing things on our own. However, there are situations in life that demand the assistance of those around us. Asking for help or assistance requires humility. God places certain people in our lives to help us through trials and tribulations. Individuals deal with many issues but are afraid to make them known for fear of what others will say and think about them.  One reason that people don't seek help is because they think that they have everything under control and that they can handle it by themselves. I personally hate asking others for help. I usually ask for help when I have exhausted all other possibilities. Depression and addiction affect many people in society. The last thing that you want someone to know is that you are depressed. Many times individuals try to mask their depression with other activities such as drinking and drug use in an attempt to feel better and escape reality. Activities like this can lead to addiction. So now you are dealing with depression and addiction at the same time. When we don't deal with one problem it often leads to other issues that make it even more difficult to ask for help. Maybe you are not dealing with depression but maybe addiction. It is very easy to become addicted to certain things, even things that we consider to be innocent. Just because you may think that something that you are doing isn't bad, it doesn't mean that it isn't bad for you. Hey, I am addicted to chewing on ice. Even though I know that it is bad for my teeth I find it very difficult to stop. You may have a more serious addiction, that may require seeking outside help from family, friends, or medical personnel. If we could figure out everything by ourselves there would really be no point for living. Living is about interacting with one another and helping each other in this journey called life.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

What If????

In life, we really have no closure when it comes to certain situations in our lives. I truly believe that our human feelings and emotions prevent us from obtaining closure. Ultimately, we are given two choices, either to accept the situation or resign from the situation. There is no in between. For example, many times when you lose a loved one there is no real feeling of closure. You come to accept that they are gone, or you refuse to accept that they are no longer in your life. Some may believe that forgiveness is closure. Nothing is really ever forgotten, no matter how much you may have forgiven a person. Even in a divorce or a breakup, there is no closure. You may wonder "what if". You accept the outcome by dealing with it and moving on. Moving on is evidence of accepting the situation. If, you hold on to something that is no longer present you are living in denial. Resigning from a situation is just the opposite of closure because you don't deal with the situation, you just give up. Many times when people are in compromising predicaments, rather than deal with the situation they just resign. Resigning doesn't provide a feeling of closure and it actually provides more questions regarding the situation. Accepting a circumstance does not mean that you will never think about that person or situation again. Resigning of course means that the situation will always be present because it hasn't been properly dealt with. With time, some situations get better. However, if presently confronted with that situation old memories, feelings, and emotions may arise. We seek closure in many ways such a starting new relationships, picking up new hobbies, or even going to therapy sessions. I feel that these things allow us to refocus our minds temporarily. Sometimes, we may find what we feel like is closure, but if you take a closer look you realize that you accepted the situation for what it was.