Sunday, August 14, 2011

PARENTING-from the child's perspective

There are two very different sides to rearing a child. There is the point of view of the child as they are being raised by their parents, and then there is the point of view of the parents in raising their child. The way that you raise your child greatly impacts their future. If you are not in your child's life, they will find someone or something to fill that void. One of the greatest lessons learned as a child is that family is everything. One good thing to know is that materialism will never replace the time that could be spent with your child. A good parent isn't perfect and will make mistakes along the way. They lead by example and expect the best from their child. One of the most amazing things about parenting is the sacrifice that many parents endure for their child. Good parents always leave that door open, so that should their child stray away they always have a place of return. The greatest relationship between a parent and child is when they both grow and learn together. You can be too easy on your child and you can't be too tough either. If you are too easy, they may not respect you and may view as their counterpart. If you are too tough, they may resist and try to get as far away as possible. However, you live and you learn and the way that you deal with one child may be different in the approach that you may take with another. The greatest rule to follow would be "Train a child in the way that he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." In other words, do the best that you can possibly do in raising your child. It may not seem like they hear you now, but it will pay off in the long run. A lot of times the change in the relationship seems to come about in those teenage years. It is during that time when the child feels as if they are being held back from so many things that they wish to explore. They feel that the person holding them back from these things are their parents. Then once adulthood is reached, after much maturation they realize that their parents were not holding them back from much at all. It is an unending cycle where parents continually try to keep their child from making the same mistakes they made in life. However, there are some experiences that everyone must go through as a part of life. I am grateful to have had my wonderful father and mother in my life as I live and learn. Most importantly, some of my best experiences have been shared with them.


4 comments:

  1. Nam, This blog brougt tears to my eyes. It is truly a joy to be your mother. It is my continued pray that you and your sisters donot make the same mistakes that I did in my relationships. You seem to be on track and thank you for breaking the cycle of broken relationships. I pray that we can continue to grow and learn together and be an example for others that have endured broken relationships at some point in their lives.
    love mom

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  2. Awwww.....it's a joy to be your daughter <3

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