Friday, August 19, 2011

CAREER VS FAMILY

This is for all the women out there. Have you ever struggled with the idea of choosing your career over establishing a family? Is it really possible to give 100% and be successful at both. What comes first, establishing a career, or establishing a family. Is it even possible to establish both at the same time? It seems that in today's society many career-oriented women tend to be single or tend to wait until they are older before they decide to marry or establish a family. Family would include children, it would not just be the husband and wife. It is the addition of children that changes the whole perspective. Let's say you and your husband decide to have kids, do you stay home with the kids or do you return back to your career?  What if you pick your career over a husband and kids? Will you have regrets later on down the line. Maybe you decide you want to have kids now, how much will this affect your career? There is definitely a difference between a single career woman and career woman with a family. If she attempts to give 100% to her career, is there a chance that she may neglect her children in some areas? If she gives 100% to her family, then she probably won't have much of a career at all. These are difficult choices to make, and the decisions that you make impact your life forever. Just thoughts of single young woman.

5 comments:

  1. Thank you for your thoughts regarding career vs family, but I have to point out that careers are "established" I wouldn't consider a family as an "establishment" for me personally having children is a choice. Women have been juggling both family and career for many years, for example my mother raised 5 children and 1 grandchild while attending college and working full time as a teacher raising "other folks" kids though married to my father who was often working away from. I have never heard her express disappointment or sadness for her choices. If I must say so myself I think she did an AMAZING job:)! Okay that was then, 30+ years ago, in today's society I DO think that you can have them both with some planning on your part. I also think that your mate has got to be equally supportive of your choices to pursue your career and life at home. He needs to share ALL family responsibility which includes dropping/picking kids up, preparing meals, household cleaning, etc. I know some women who stay home, because the cost of childcare is so expensive they (the husband included) prefer to "try" and save money by staying at home. You have to be careful not to lose a sense of "self" if this is your choice. On the other hands I think companies/jobs are being a little more sensitive towards working mothers by allowing them the freedom to work at home or onsite daycare etc. Times are constantly changing and we are changing with them. If there is no balance your job or your home life may suffer, but I think especially for women of color challenges are often thrown our way and we have an inner strength, a little voice that allows us to press onward!

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  2. I liked the post above :)...I think that when I have children I probably will drop my career for them because I want to give them all the time and attention they need..I can go back to the career when they get older if I decide to

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  3. Well you know what I THINK

    Dad

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  4. You know I struggling with that now. But because I have an option. (My husband makes enough money for both us, for me to stay home) Besides he will be deploying for an entire year and I think its important for our daughter to at least have ONE parent that she sees! I am very old-fashioned and conservative, and if the woman doesn't have to work, she should stay home. They are only young once and you can NEVER get those moments back. I am not a fan of the liberal woman's movement. I think that did more harm than good. (Personal opinion)That's why we PLANNED our child. We were ready and we knew what that meant. I would work all the way up til the end of my pregnancy and the stay home for a year.

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  5. Marrying and ultimately having a family is an instition established by God and the parents are charged to train up the children in way they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it. A parent must be available,supportive, encouraging and compassionate. I would recommend that couples discuss the issue of childcare before marriage. I would advise an adult to pursue their career and when the children are born to become a homemaker because parents are the children first teachers. This will ensure that your children have the morals/ethics that represent your values and standards. It is so rewarding. Of course it cannot be done withourt the cooperationg of your spouse. Additionally, working from the home is an outstanding option. mom

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